Sir, what according to u is the Osho's message and why am i not able to understand it ?
My friend .....
Please pay attention to a very basic and a very important point....all the ppl who have experienced or known truth or who got enlightened and went beyond it so to speak...are saying the same thing...and it is explained in 3 points...from Kabir to Guru Nanak to Buddha to krishna to Gurdjieff to anybody...all there expressions and words are just about these 3 points. Their whole msg contains only these 3 things or steps as one may call . The only difference is that somebody is more elaborate and simplistic...like Osho and Krishna and somebody is less elaborate like krishnamurthy or Gurdjieff.
U asked what is "Osho's message"
1. First point...the way it is, Life is pain, life is struggle, life is a continuous state of restlessness AND A DEEP INNER VACUUM. Guru Nanak called it "nanak dukhyia sab sansaar...everybody is suffering."...and since there is pain and unhappiness or dukh...there is a reason to it...this is the first point. And they go explaining how life is a pain...how a poor is also struggling and how a rich is also struggling....how a healthy person is also complaining all the time and how a not so healthy person is doing the same....how a woman is at unease and the same way goes for man...how somebody very famous is missing something in life as the one who is totally anonymous...this way or that way...there is perpetual and unending unease.
2.Second point....since there is pain and there is a reason...the reason can be found, understood and thus eliminated...and this uneasiness or insecurity can be sorted out. And masters have told so many ways and meditation techniques to get rid of this reason of suffering and reach the permanent state of bliss...some call it "finding urself"..."who am i"...some call it "disappearing in one"...some call it knowing god...some call it becoming shunya...some say it reaching the consciousness or atma...some call it your true self....n on n on........
3. Thirdly....how to know that one has reached ...or one is liberated or one knows.....and what happens if one reaches the state of truth...and mystics have gone great lengths describing this state of "becoming love" becoming one" "the state of ecstasy for no reasons".
So Osho's message is just about these 3 steps and it is somehow every self realized persons message...it's wrong to call it message it's more like "their expressions"....their poetry...their songs.
So firstly there is pain and vacuum...secondly one can be relieved of pain by understanding the reasons for it and thirdly what happens when u get rid of all this suffering...that's it...story finished......))))).........
Now comes a very important point.......
See...out of theses 3 points, first one is very easy to understand...its easy to relate to it bcos at some point or the other everybody is going through this restlessness...so whenever a master explains how life is pain one is always in agreement...and one understands it.
Now comes the second point...the second point where "the transformation" or understanding takes place...to watch the reasons of this vacuum and then to get transformed. Since this second step involves the biggest challenege bcos one has to change oneself ....to go through a very painful process of looking at oneself without even knowing how to look at oneself...people escape this step very conveniently...just a few meditation techniques...few sessions of catharsis...few sessions of shedding tears....few discourses over a period of time...few mystic rose programes....the mind accumulate all the words and one feels that one understands and starts saying things which are to be visible on its own after one has reached. And then in real life person falls flat bcos one realises that nothing has changed....still same reactions and heart breaks....)))....one starts meditating again and same thing happens.......now a person reaches a state where one feels that one knows listening to the words and one also knows deep down that "one does'nt know"....and this is a very scary and suffocating position where a seeker loses the capacity to learn and listen....the growth stops completely...at this point one needs a real master and not a camp leader or a teacher....only the one who is out of this web can pull u out ......nobody else can...not possible....
And so a person generally jumps from first point to 3rd point directly where one starts talking abt bliss and love and silence and depth and nirvana....all that one has heard from the master or read somewhere.
You can see it everywhere....u can see osho sannyasins sitting and talking abt these things everywhere but just 5 minutes and u will realize its all hogwash....mere words...no transformation just information. One can clearly see the shallowness of what they keep on saying.
When i traveled to different communes and met so many camp leaders...all the time i used to get amazed at how ppl are fooling themselves...everybody was trying to give the wisdom to the other and the other was in turn doing the same...and both were grossly sad and empty deep down...i used to see it happening all the times...i saw camp leaders who took sanyas from osho and meditated with him....and still not growing at all despite so many years of meditation. It was so clearly visible...they had jumped from the first point to the third point directly without having gone through the process of change and transformation...and now they are guiding others....what to do...that's how it is....generally ppl try to become "a master"...without having been "a disciple"...but that doesn't work...to get rid of this pain one has to go through a deep inner cleansing...total wash...absolute clean slate.
Now how does one miss the second point ...."the art of transformation".
Osho used to say that all my words are useless..."don't ever get trapped in them"...it's "the one behind those words " which holds the key to all the secrets and bliss....but what happens is exactly the opposite....a seeker falls in love with the masters words and gets lost in them....one gets so engrossed in those words and the techniques that one misses out the very first lesson by the master...
And hence generally a person ends up becoming a parrot rather than self realized....you will see parrots everywhere and gradually u will get tired of and them and i m not saying these ppl are not good human beings....they r wonderful human beings but no good when it comes to what u r searching for. Generally in camps u will finds parrots taking the camps repeating osho techniques and cds....so strange osho always said that don't get lost in words all these techniques are not required beyond the starting point..still i used to see all these camps leaders glorifying and telling lies about these meditation techniques.....kundalini and chakras and heart centres and bla bla, they give such fantastic definitions and explanations that one gets lost in them ....pls dont take these things seriously....keeps on listening to the words and doing techniques but the main thing is "use them to drop ur mind...use them for "silence"...once u are able to drop ur mind and start moving into silence...then the process of "dhyan or meditation" begins.....the real game starts....))).........
The second step is the most important, don't be in a hurry to cross that....the day ur slate gets cleaned, everything is going be so clear that the third step will happen on its own...all ur questions, anxieties, search...will just vanish......ur dream will get shattered and u will be "awakened"...u will be OSHO........ AND THEN HIS MESSAGE IS GOING TO BE UR MESSAGE.
Prem Kamal
Dear friend...all human folly and suffering sprouts out of poor understanding...all means all...and poor understanding means "NOT BEING ABLE TO SEE THE LAWS OF NATURE".
A human mind is always in a continuous state of turbulence...a stream of uneasyness keeps flowing continously...even in the dreams. A few things or issues are constantly sucking the life energy like a parasite and there is no bliss whatsoever.
What is ur mind trying to sort out all the times... the insecurity, the fears, the greed, the anger, the boredom, the jealousy, the directionless of life, relationships...that's it, isnt it. I relate to so many ppl all around, responding to lots of friends...to ppl i have never met...to ppl i will never ever meet...the funny thing is the problems and issues concerned are just the same or very limited...so the whole of humanity is fighting with just a few basic issues and it's always been so.....
Coming to what u asked as to how u can understand or simplify a situation by understanding the laws of nature...
Take the example of a basic human trait "jealousy"...everybody goes through this at some point in one's life...now and then. Now everybody knows "jealousy" is neither desirable nor justified and still it keeps encompassing us time and again leading us into guilt...why does it happen.
Generally ppl try to drop jealousy...or try not to be jealous and this trying is an indication that one has not understood the basic problem. JEOLOUSY is not something which can be dropped like a piece of wood...it doesnt work that way.
Jealousy happens when somewhere in ur mind u feel or have this wrong idea that u own somebody...that u possess something...that it is urs...that it is urs forever...that a person or a thing belongs to u forever...or that u deserve something and not the other person...
Now this illusion or wrong understanding comes because one is not aware...one is not able to see and observe a basic law of law and i.e "that here nothing is urs...even ur body is not urs...or else one wld always stay young forever...or would be able to manipulate it according to ones fancy...one wld not have any grey hair...or old age...n on n on....u r not able to c that ur blood does'nt need ur permission to run in ur body...nor does ur kidney or for that matter anything...ur nails keep on growing whether u want or not...ur sleep doesnt need ur permission ....u don't even own ur body so to speak...u don't even own ur birth, life or death...here nothing belongs to u, its just here without ur choice...
So how can u have this idea of something belonging to u...if u just be aware about it "the jeolousy will never arise...it's not possible...even if u would try to be jeolous, it won't happen "...but one never sees this basic of law of nature
And the fight goes on with jealousy and other vices that come along with it...it's such a simple thing, just see....when ur body is not in ur control...ur breathing is not in ur control.......how can u control or possess anything, its sheer ignorance...if u c this simple fact , jeolousy is gone for ever without any effort...U WILL NEVER EVER TRY TO HOLD ON TO ANYTHING....BCOS NOW U KNOW THAT "IT'S NOT THE RULE"...
Take another example...assuming that u r going through a phase of insecurity...u r constantly paranoid abt this or that all the time...what do u do. U TRY TO RATIONALIZE or u try to take the attention away from this thought process of insecurity...u try to cover it up either by forgetting abt it or by starting to live in denial...but either way...whn u r in the phase of insecurity or when u r trying to divert ur attention from it, the problem stays...the feeling of insecurity keeps popping up again and again...
Why is it happening that way...it's simple...it's happening bcos u have not observed a basic of law of nature that "insecurity is a way of life...that's the way it is designed...it means that u can have no idea abt the future...and that's the way it stays...no matter what u do, still the future is never certain...death is bound to come for sure...and there is no security against so called death...isn't it... here nothing is sure and secure...insecurity is an essential foundation stone of existence...life is unpredictable...future is unpredictable...u can assume...u can make guesses...but still life is never certain...simple...if understand this u will never feel insecure about anything in life...if u understand a very simple law of nature all ur fears will disappear...all ur insecurities will disappear if u see that insecurity is the only secure way of life...but we keep missing such a small thing...almost everybody misses this point or never applies in life...
Lets take another situation...most of the problems arise when it comes dealing with humans...relationships...People are always complaining as to how the other person is creating hell for them...how all the miseries in their lives are bcos of "the other person"...how the person is breaking their hearts...men are complaining abt their women...women are unhappy about their men...this way or that way...some thing is always wrong with the other be it the boss in the office...be it the girlfriend or the boyfriend...be it the husband or the wife...be it this or that...it seems as if the other person is always responsible...
Now what is the confrontation and point of conflict in human relationship and how do we miss a simple law of nature..." why are we always trying to impose our opinion...our perception...our ideas...our desires on to the other...AND TO INSIST THAT I M RIGHT"...and this game of imposing oneself on to the other is happening all the time and it is suffocating...almost maddening...almost volcanic...this idea to play "Mr. Always Right...or Miss.Always Correct..." has brought in extreme negativity in all the relationships....
Why does this happen..and it happens everywhere without any exception...the reason is simple and very obvious..."existence has made everybody unique...u r as unique as everybody else " and if u understand such a simple thing...there won't be any conflicts....u will give the other person total freedom and u will be free of all the expectations...just understand that here everybody is unique and entitled to ones own life, ones own destiny, ones own understanding of things...and 'voila'...one is free...free from "the other"..free from expectations...free from desire to control the other...free from the blame game...free from everything so to speak...free from all the problems that arise in human relationships..."to each one it's own" becomes the mantra....that's the law of nature
AND IT IS LIKE THIS IN EVERY SITUATION...
BE IT DEATH..BE IT MONEY...BE IT HEALTH...BE IT ANYTHING....
IN ANY SITUATION JUST WAIT AND UNDERSTAND THE THE LAW OF NATURE AND U WILL BE LIBERATED...I CAN ASSURE U "THAT'S HOW IT IS"
ALL THE BEST...
Prem Kamal
As long as u r alive and ur heart and mind functions fine...u r bound to get hurt, have no doubts about it.To not to get hurt, either u have to be dead or be like a stone.
Now u r saying that u dont want to get hurt.....well, mere "wanting" won't fetch you anything...the wisdom lies in understanding the situation that u r in.
Getting hurt has 2 aspects.
1. Getting physically hurt...well be ware of it and avoid it, that brings real suffering ...if u are physically hurt, get the treatment, that's the only thing possible.
2. Getting hurt mentally...well this is a major issue with everybody...knowingly or unknowingly, this way or that way, sooner or later everybody keeps getting hurt.
Further more... getting mentally hurt, again has 2 aspects.
A normal person gets hurt and it generates lots of anger, hatred, bad vibes, negativity, pain and so many other complexes...and on the other hand if a wise person gets hurt , a so called enlightened one gets hurt... that generates compassion , a sense of let go , a feeling of wonder about what happened....a wondering about the strange ways of life.
Generally when u are getting hurt...it generates resentment , a feeling of having let down , a feeling where u close urself towards situations and people , while if somebody like Buddha or Kabir or Osho gets hurt...they will just smile...they will feel compassionate...they will just wonder and that's about it.
Don't ever think that an enlytened person doesn't get hurt. When an angry man spat on Buddha, Buddha didnt get angry...nor was he like a stone...he just watched the situation compassionately and let it go...It happened with guru nanak so many times...it happened with osho so many times...he was hurt and he was compassionate....it happened to Jesus even while he was being crucified....he was hurt that he was trying to tell something to people for their own good and still they were treating him like that...still he was not angry but compassionate.
Now generally speaking, when does a person gets hurt .
1.when ones knowledge about something is contradicted.
2.when the other person has an opinion about you which you don't like
3.when the other person doesn't behave or respond the way u want or expect
4.when the other person doesn't turn up the way u thought about him/her...like in case of people having heart breaks.
Well,
1. In first case please remember that what u know is very little...what u don't know is far far bigger...and what u can never know is limitless, so don't take your knowledge seriously...drop the argument even if u feel u r right...u won't feel hurt.
2. In second case please understand people have their own parameters to analyse and synthesise. Their rationalization may not always appeal to you and it is not in your control. What others think about u should not matter at all if u don't find any divisibility inside urself about urself. So they are entitled to have their own set of understanding about you...don't try to justify if u think otherwise...don't take it to ur heart bcos if the other person is right then he/she is right and if the other person is wrong about his opinion of you then he is anyways wrong....why bother urself.
3. In third case please understand that in this world everybody is unique.....from the physical features...to the mind set....to the conditioning.....n on and on. So here nobody is born to fulfill ur expectations or ur desires....that is not the rule....so kindly do urself a favour by not asking for something which is not in the law book of nature....it is natural to expect but please understand that it is also natural that ur expectations are not going to be fulfilled the way u want every time....so no point in getting hurt if u understand this.
4. The fourth case is basically a case of complexes...which is also known as fear of rejection. Generally it happens that a person goes through a "failed affair or heart break " and comes a fear of rejection...and sometimes relations keep on failing and consequently a person develops this phobia of "getting hurt"...a person goes into a withdrawal...the introvert mode....well my dear.... be in a "spontaneous mode" rather than living in all these fancy ideas of feeling loved or getting hurt...please understand the temporary nature of things in this world....here nothing is permanent so to speak...even u r not permanent...so why do u expect a permanent rejection or permanent acceptance...a permanent love....love which never fails...accept ur helplessness about the non permanent nature of things...this is the way it is...and when u see this u will never feel rejected and hence wont get hurt...life keeps moving...love comes love goes...people come people go, be it friends or enemies.... opinions get formed they get destroyed...emotions keep changing...u have no control over anything...u have nothing to do with them...and someday if u realize this u will have an orbital jump where transcending happens...where "mukti " happens...where "liberation " happens.
And please remember getting hurt is a sign of ego...of association with mind...of rigidity......of playing high and mighty...of being holier than thou...and all this never brings any creativity or happiness...still if u enjoy getting hurt "feel free in doing so" or else "grow up....grow in".
A few things about people who get hurt easily or are always prepared to get hurt......
1. People have inner vacuum and miseries and it's easy to blame others for that and the easiest way to do is by getting hurt and blaming others...this way or that way they keep getting hurt...it's not possible to satisfy them...ask urself, are u one of them, if yes....now u can drop such habits.
2. A person who has this idea that some day some body is bound to come in life and fulfill all that one asked for...that somewhere there is somebody who is bound to make you totally happy...well one who has even a slightest undercurrent of such thoughts is bound to get hurt again and again...complete fulfillment from "the other" is not possible in the game of life...u drop such ideas and u will never be hurt.
3.A person who is self centered is bound to be hurt time and again...a person who wants to be the center of everything around in life is going to be an easy prey to pain and misery...be selfish and not self centered...u r not the center of anything
lastly
Once somebody asked me "why was it necessary for god to create pain and hurt"...and i said it's because ultimately god is going to hurt u....the existence is going to hurt u in the form of death...ur death or death of somebody who is a part of u...god is preparing u for the ultimate hurt bcos one day all ur agendas...ur possessions ...ur thoughts ...ur acheviments...ur ideas ...ur failures ...ur body...ur desires etc etc are going to be taken away from u....no matter how serious u act... the existence is boosting your final hurt immunity by giving u little doses of pain and hurt time and again....so that u become aware and fall into a state of surrender and let go.
All the best
Prem Kamal
"Shanti nahi milti...milaygy bhi nahi...dhondhnay sey kissi ko bhi nahi milti...u r not able to find peace...u won't find it...nodbody has ever found it by searching for it"...searching for shanti/peace is the wrong approach.
And why is it the wrong approach...
"Simply because it is not a product that u can go and buy...it is not a thing which is placed at a particular spot and once u reach there u will get it...."
I come across people who say they are searching for peace and they are wandering and they have traveled here and there and more here and there...and they are still searching...from mountains to caves, to fields ,to all that their mind gets attracted to...they are mere tourists just glamourising their travel travails as search for something higher and deeper...and i am not saying that traveling or wandering is wrong...it's ur call...i m simply saying...it won't work because shanti or peace is not in "then and there...it is in now and here"...get this loud and clear "it's now and here"
So if it is "in now and here" then why is it eluding everybody?
It is eluding everybody bcos nobody is present in "now and here"...everybody is busy chasing the dreams,the mirage of the future, or what is to be done next, and how to do it and all this is endless...like the dreaded black hole...bottomless...
And if one is not in future one is in past...remembering it, cribbing about it, glorifying it or repenting it...have you not seen people saying "oh those were the best days"...)))....
"those days"...not that they were the best....when one was there in time one was still trying to sort and streamline the various aspects of ones life...behaving exactly the way one is behaving now....one was not present there at that point in time.
People are always escaping from this moment...they will travel...they will do meditation camps...they will go to satsangs...all kinds of therapies and groups and healings...flying across continents...from Europe to Delhi to Pune to Himachal to Khajuraho to Nepal to Istanbul to everywhere...traveling everywhere but not staying "in here...in this moment...neither a second forward nor backward...just this moment".
Just watch urself, r u present in this moment...no...just 2 seconds and ur mind will pull ur attention to here there and everywhere...to this thought, that though or any thought...and these thoughts will tell u to do millions of things...do this and that, go here and there...call him or her or someone...watch a movie or whatever...there is unrelenting bombardment of ideas and suggestions by ur mind...u r just a slave to ur thoughts and u r not present in "now and here"...so no peace and no shanti.
The other day i was sitting with somebody in the best condominium of the town...the topmost floor...with beautiful view...and the elderly gentlemen i was sitting with was just telling how bad things are...how everything is just getting worse, from economy to health to relationships to society to human psyche...n on n on...and he was lost in saying such things for almost an hour when suddenly i stopped him...i said "pls wait, just wait...i m sitting here with u for last 2 hrs enjoying the view and the beautiful appartment and the of tea and everything around and u r just lost in criticizing things...i can assure u...there is nothing wrong anywhere...atleast there hasn't been anything wrong in last 2 hrs...things are just fine...infact just perfect...ask me...and we r sitting at the same place"...the guy was speechless.
And i said "sir...DROP THESE IDEAS...the world has always been like that...the world will always be like that...ppl come and ppl go....the world is neither good or bad....ppl kill ppl get killed...ppl cheat and ppl become honest...ppl get angry and then ppl become silent...sun comes and goes...so does everything and it will remain so...but it's not about ppl...it's not about anybody else but u...it is what u r doing to urself that matters and what u do to urself u end up doing to others...and the process continues with everybody...and it seems as if there is nothing right here...its just bad bad bad...no it's not...its not good nor is it bad...its a flux...good becoming bad and the other way round...u dont worry abt how everybody or the world is...at least u stick to urself...take care of urself...find ur happiness...bcos u have the right to ur life and actions only"...still...it's ur choice...but let me assure u world has always been like this and it will always be like this...
Things are neither right nor wrong ...they r the way they r...u make ur choice...dont crib...sun is shinning, somebody is blabbering and complaining about the heat...how hot it is....the other person just moves to the shade without saying a single word...u decide what u want...and every moment of ur life will tell about the choice u r making...abt what u r doing to urself...abt what u r doing with ur life...what's goin inside ur head is telling what u r into...the tiredness in ur eyes is reflecting the weight u r carrying in ur head...ur walk tells as to how much u r lost and how much u r present...make no mistake, "every moment is screaming loud and clear about what u have been doing to urself in ur life"....good or bad..right or wrong...it's ur life...better be honest to urself...every word that u speak or every thought that takes away ur attention is an intense indication of ur understanding and clarity about things...dont blame others, thats the easy way out and prefered by almost everybody
So what to do ..this is always the question...)))...
Its simple,don't search for "peace and shanti"...get rid of "ashanti or restlessness"...get rid of the chaos...stop creating more of it...identify the points as to how u create uneasiness in life, THE ARGUMENTS, THE CONFLICTS and be aware of those moments. And when they come again...don't fall for them...don't fall in the same ditch...stop there...just stop being ashant and restless...just drop ur crazy ideas AND INTELLIGENCE THAT HAS MADE U REACH THIS POINT OF POINTLESSNESS...
AND IF U CAN'T STOP DROPPING THINGS WHICH BRING CONFLICTS IN UR LIFE , "KEEP SUFFERING...U DESERVE IT".
Don't worry about doing..."just be...just be aware of the moments when u are about to fall in uneasiness and stop"...
The day ur restlessness and uneasiness goes away, whatever that shall be left is "PEACE AND SHANTI".
HAVE THE GUTS TO STAY IN THIS MOMENT...
THIS IS THE ONLY DIFFICULT THING IN THIS WORLD...THE ONLY...REST IS ALL VERY EASY
IN THIS MOMENT RESTLESSNESS, ANXIETY, BUTTERFLIES INSIDE, ASHANTI IS NOT POSSIBLE...TRY IT...U WILL BE SURPRISED...U WILL BE SURPRISED HOW SIMPLE IT IS...BUT WE DON'T LIKE SIMPLE THINGS...DO U...))).....
All the best
Prem Kamal
MY DEAR WHO TOLD U THAT BEING POSITIVE OR POSITIVE THINKING IS GOOD AND GOING TO HELP U IN ANY WAY...FROM WHERE DID U GET THIS IDEA....))).
PLEASE UNDERSTAND THE 3 DIMENSIONS OF THOUGHT PROCESS.
When u r looking only "at the rose" with all its grandeur of fragrance and beauty, it is being positive...it's one extreme...
When u r looking only "at the thorns" engulfing the rose, it is negative thinking...it's another extreme...
And when u r looking "totally at the whole"...the plant, with leaves,thorns and flower and the flower bed and the garden...it is being pragmatic, being realistic...the "MADHYA MARG...THE RIGHT WAY"...what Buddha said.
NOW WHO NEEDS POSITIVE THINKING.
Only a person who has negative thinking is attracted to positive thinking...
A person who has no negative thinking will not think of positive thinking...
Only a person who is not well thinks of medicine...isn't it.
So to become a positive thinker u have to be a negative thinker first...or else who cares about positive thoughts...there is no need.
The issue is the negativity...and what u r trying to do is basically replace negative with positive...and there lies the whole problem of understanding.
The solution is not in bringing the positivity but getting rid of negativity...become bereft of negativity and u won't need any positivity.
NOW, WHY DOES ONE HAVE NEGATIVE THINKING...
HOW DOES THE NEGATIVITY BEGINS...
FROM WHERE DOES IT ENTER.
YOU WILL BE SURPRISED TO KNOW THAT All YOUR NEGATIVE THINKING IS BECAUSE OF THE POSITIVE THOUGHTS THAT U STARTED WITH.
Please look in your life and see how the trap gets formed.
Positive thinking is always future oriented...pertaining to what u expect out of ur actions...and all your action is motivated by goals.
These goals are part of ur positive thinking and aspirations. You set your standards or goals or objectives and the time frame and the whole road map as to how to reach them.
There is a zest when u plan all this...
one is in a positive bent of mind, full of enthusiasm , energy.
Now when u plan it's only ur mind that works...but when u act or execute there is ur body and so many other factors which are involved... parameters which r not in ur hands, which ur mind doesn't know about at the time of planing .
The whole approach of planning is grossly optimistic rather than realistic.
It is based on what u desire and expect rather than what u may or may not get.
And when u start working or moving towards ur goal u realize u are failing so many times...
u realize there are so many compromises involved...so many struggles, so many bad decisions, so many pitfalls, so much tiredness...so much fight, and on and on.
Gradually negativity comes...the whole momentum of energy takes u turn bcos life is not what u had imagined while being in the optimistic frame of mind...there r obstacles...the outcome is generally not what u had anticipated...and the same positive attitude turns negative.
That is why this world is full of negativity despite all the talk and lectures on how to do this and that, how to be positive...how to be happy....and all the "how to manuals..."
The more the talk of being positive shows the prevailing abundance of negativity...the more the talk of positive thoughts indicates the presence of negative thinking in the life.
These manuals, guiding lines and 3 rules of happiness and 7 rules of letting go and 10 rules to stay relaxed and 12 rules for this and that and bla bla are just bogus and time pass...
Just look at ppl who throw such set of rules...they themselves have no idea of what they are proposing...these rules are propagated by those who have no idea of realism, who don't have the capacity to see things as they are.
IF U R NEGATIVE...PLEASE DON'T TRY TO BE POSITIVE...
IF U R NEGATIVE...BE NON NEGATIVE...DON'T TRY TO BE POSITIVE...
STAY NON NEGATIVE AND NON POSITIVE...THAT'S THE KEY
OR ELSE U WILL BE TRAPPED IN THE VICIOUS CIRCLE OF NEGATIVE BECOMING POSITIVE AND POSITIVE BECOMING NEGATIVE AND U WILL GO CRAZY.
There is a huge difference between "being non negative and being positive."
NON NEGATIVE MEANS...U R REALISTIC.
POSITIVE MEANS...U R DREAMING...being idealistic , being a dreamer...future oriented...and when dream gets shattered in the unknown dimensions of future...negativity descends...and this is bringing all the sadness, lifelessness, struggle and tiredness in the peoples lives.
Why do people have problems in their married life...
bcos when they started off they were just totally positive...all goody goody...but life is not always goody goody...it has it's own agenda...and then when they realize this, they become full of negativity and that's why marriage is regretted most of the times...ppl are always cribbing.
Why are people unhappy in their work life or careers...
simply bcos earlier they were all so overtly positive...high hopes...anticipating a shiny future blinding their eyes...nobody thinks of the daily office struggles or the politics involved or the hassles of doing buisness or the worker management or the hectic schedules or the useless traveling in so much pollution and traffic...that's why people look so sad at work...they never visualized all this initially...even ppl at high posts are always wrecked and anxious...the reason is the same...positive thinking in the begining is turning around.
Why do relations fail...
the story remains the same...ppl are so very positive when it begins...and then...the pendulum of energy shifts towards negativity when they see that things are not what they had imagined.
Why does every child wants to grow up fast but becomes unhappy once he grows young and subsequently old ?
It's just bcos of positive thinking...high hopes...high aspirations he had as a child...every thought is just full of enthusiasm but as they grow up...they realize the futility of things...they realize how they had exaggerated the positive dimension of their thought process...the illusions they created.
Observe how the insurance companies and real estate companies promote their business...they hit the positive chamber of ur mind to sell their products...they always flash a pic of a beautiful house with a nice garden and a lovely woman holding her cute little child on the swing with husband smiling besides that woman in the "oh so perfect weather with right amount of sun and breeze"...they are hitting ur positive thought process...all sugary and sweet.
In real life it is not so...a mother hardly looks the woman projected in the picture, she is constantly working n tired in real life...and small children are generally swung in the garden by the maids most of the times...and husbands are never to be found in such places...and the perfect weather of the picture hardly exists.
Have u seen why so many ppl are not able to lose weight despite all the guidance, help and efforts...it's simply bcos they start out with lot of positivity...and gradually when things don't happen the way they thought...they get dejected and turn negative...all the gyming, the atkins diets and naturopathys fail...the enthusiasm fades away...they give up mid way...positive energy turns negative...and then after few months again this energy again turns positive...ppl again start running to lose weight...and again the same cycle happens.
Same thing happens with people who want to quit smoking or drinking or whatever...most of the times they fail...
Whole life goes away and one is left moving in the same circle.
So please understand how nature works rather than falling in the trap of these glorious sets of idealistic eutopian advices, manuals and rules of positivity.
People say "don't expect"...and they also say "be positive"...now what they are not able to see is that "ALL UR EXPECTATIONS ARE DISGUISED IN THE FORM OF POSITIVE THOUGHTS AND ALL UR EXPECTATIONS WILL BRING PAIN".....BEWARE.
Osho used to say "sukh kee aad mein hee dukh aata hai......all ur pain comes in the cover of pleasure" ....
Don't be negative...Don't be positive...just be realistic and see things as they are and act as per the situation rather than the imagination or idealism in ur head.
Things are "the way they are"....neither negative nor positive...
AND FEEL FREE TO DISAGREE WITH WHAT I AM SAYING .
Good Luck
Prem Kamal
What else do you expect ?
Anything which you start taking for granted will begin to infest boredom. If you are an actor and u feel u really know the depth of acting, that u have reached the zenith...... the very moment you will begin to lose interest and your downfall will start and that goes for everything in this world which u start taking for granted.
About human relationship , this is one point that couples don't understand and are not aware off.
Love always starts with attraction, that's the first step.....first not the last......that attraction needs be kept IN SOME FORM for love to grow...........
One is attracted to something that one doesn't have or the quality that one appreciates. So the catch is how to keep this attraction alive and kicking........not only that, how to increase the intensity of it with every fall of sand granule in the hour glass..........
Women are attracted by what they hear.......and Men are generally attracted by what they see.
If a man has the "gift of gab".....he is always going to be Mr. Charming, he is always going to be very magnetic for women.....bcos women want to be entertained....they want to be won over by the verbal expressions of the man to begin with...they want to laugh.....they generally go by what they hear......
For a man, generally he is attracted by how women appears, how she looks, that's how it generally starts and that is the reason why women are so bothered and particular about their looks.They know that men are attracted by what they see and with attraction one feels wanted, needed ......and that's a very basic human desire "to be needed"..........
Now everything has a limit.....for how long can one be charming ...for how long can one be coming up with new talk and ideas that binds somebody interest and attention when u r together most of the times......for how long can a man come up with something humorous and funny....it's not possible.
And similarly for how long can a woman maintain her attractiveness.....the physical dimensions or appearance off the body cannot be maintained or perfected all the time by the very design and law of nature. For how long can one keep the "oh so perfect appearance" to keep the attraction alive........
When courtship happens , one meets for lesser time........but once u start being together most of the times, it's not possible to be on the edge of maintaining your appearance all the time.
So with time, the mystery in the other or these parameters of initial attraction tend to fade.
The normal rigmarole of life catches up.....thick and fast.....not only catches up, it piles up.....it starts over weighing these qualities which a man and woman appreciated in the days of their courtship.....the relationship once established creates a feeling of "taken for granted"....
And hence the ship of romance starts sinking, the aura of being in love starts fading away fast. If couples don't have children , there is a big possibility that they will lose interest in each other with time....it's not always like that but the chances become very high.
There are 2 fundamental points that matter ... to be always in a state of love and not look bored....
First, by reinventing urself all the time. Words and Appearance are just on the periphery....there is more in a man than his words and there is a lot more in a woman than her appearance. One has to start moving to higher qualities for this love and attraction to become more intense. And this can happen only when one is creative , when one is learning and moving into something new .... something fresh.....this art of being creative and channelizing your energy positively will reflect in your relationships as well. It will keep the other person interested in you bcos with opening up of new dimensions in life for yourself ....u r in a way opening the same for your partner also.....with ur growth ...the other also has a chance to grow and explore more.If one doesn't have this knack........the boredom is bound to creep in.
Don't take anything for granted in any relationship....DON'T STOP GROWING....don't stop creating "new you" all the time......or the whole relationship will start wilting....and when the intensity begins to fade after the mystery of unknown in the other is gone, people start blaming their partner......and that's not sensible. As far as my understanding goes.......any relationship will fail when u stop learning, when one gets trapped in the SET PATTERNS of life rather than learning something new.........as long as your wheel of creativity is moving , it will keep on churning fresh energy of love.....it will keep your eyes fresh and clean and sparkling....just go on dropping past and keep on enhancing your creativity and it goes for both ...men and women.
Second and very important............giving each other some space........it's like pruning the plants.....it brings new space...new air......new directions to grow in...it helps in blossoming.....
If one starts holding on to the other all the time, it will kill the relationship , it will bring retaliation and will generate a feeling to escape......and it will suffocate the partner.......so this is very essential as the first parameter depends on the second one.One can learn and explore something new only when one gets the freedom of space....freedom of space without any fear.............
But generally in life both these things are missing. People take each other for granted and people take themselves for granted and that makes that tingling feel of love go stale......and life without this feeling of love...without this feeling of newness ...without this feeling of freshness....becomes meaning less....juice less........
Don't take life for granted, don't take a human being for granted , don't take your body for granted.......and it goes for everything........just keep on moving into the new....into being creative......creativity always blesses with a feeling of goodliness and godliness........and never let anybody encroach your time and space totally.......that would be claustrophobic .......
)))))))...........
Prem Kamal
To begin with.....
Meditation is the dialysis for the inner.
Meditation is the process of De-poisoning the mind and then creating a distance from it.
It is the remedy for all mental garbage that is choking up human mind.
It the process of gradual liberation from anger, hatred, frustration, guilt, fear ....bla bla bla
And finally, the riddance from mother of all these mental diseases... "THE EGO" and " the dualities....the confusions....the mental flux...."
Meditation is the process which may bring "FINAL clarity....absolute clarity without any ifs and buts, only if one is willing to experience the "art of dying"....(not physical death but "the ego"......)
Now, when i say "to begin with"...it means , for a normal person or for the beginner...................
For a person who is new to meditation it is just a way to relax, to unwind , to de-stress.......but that is just the beginning
Somehow 99.99% of the people who meditate are stuck only at the beginning.They meditate for years and years but still remain at the same level......just repeating the "a...b....c...........".......just repeating the basic techniques..........
For example.........you look at people who have been meditating for years....they are still into repetition of same as to what they started out with years ago.
You go to meditation camps and u will find camp leaders and aged seekers still stuck with kundalini , zibberish etc....
These techniques are just the basics.......they will de-stress you......these techniques will help you relax......but what after that.You will again get tensed, choked up once u come to normal life and again you will go to some meditation camp and do the same things and again feel light.....and then again, once out of the meditation center you will fall into the same trap of getting messed up. Same set of emotional parameters and dimensions will engulf you again and you will feel tensed and down.So it becomes a circular pattern of tension and relaxation.........
Am i saying "don't do it".....
No, i am saying that it is just the beginning and a beginning has to be made....but don't get stuck with the basics....
The real meditation begins where these techniques end...where the silence starts...And silence has no techniques.....
The real meditation will not only remove the stress but it will take you to the level where you will never be stressed or tensed or dejected again.
The real meditation will free you from "the meditation techniques" itself
It will remove the very roots from where these diseases spread.
The 75% part of the meditation techniques like kundalini ,chakras,tratak and all helps in reducing the symptoms rather than the cause itself....it is just like cutting the leaves......
The leaves of anger, pain, jealousy etc ect will fall down for some time but as soon as u r back to your normal daily life, they will grow again.
That is why u will find people all over who have not changed in the real sense despite meditating for decades.....they have just been cutting the leaves....they never had the guts to reach the very roots and cut the problem from there.The real surgery begins with "silence"........Osho said many times "be silent and know"......that is the key.
WHY MEDITATION TECHNIQUES.........
For humans its not so easy to be quiet...forget about being silent....and hence masters device these techniques as a way to reach the silence a bit easily and quickly.
So meditation techniques are required to reach a stage of being quiet and then being silent ........that's it.
And once you are settled in silence, the real meditation begins....the game changes.....the meditation starts from silence.............................
ABOUT THE RIGHT WAY .............
Well as a seeker you have to be aware as to where u are getting stuck.....
If you are just stuck in the repetition of the physical jugglery involved in any meditation technique OR JUST GETTING STUCK IN WORDS AND DISCOURSES, begin to question your understanding.Begin to question as to what you are doing and if it is actually leading you anywhere except temporary relaxation..........
It is so strange that people who know...who have known ...who have experienced the truth, keep on telling that these words are useless, that these techniques are just a beginning....that they won't take you far....that the words are basically of mind...that don't repeat these words....the words which are not your experience.....but still almost everybody is doing the same.They go on repeating the words of osho or other masters without any break,such is their obsession , their mind cannot rest without it .....it almost becomes a source of time pass and entertainment.The mind keeps lurking for them...more and more......and one gets stuck in those words thinking that they know.
Knowing those words and having information about those words are two different things. Information doesn't means transformation.I have seen people who listen to discourses at night if they are not able to sleep.........they have just fallen in love with a trap despite warning from the master.....
So don't repeat words like love, silence and this and that till the point you are liberated...It trivializes the whole affair of meditation.....
People who got liberated spoke of these words only after they had experienced truth...after they had become truth....if u speak before that, they won't carry any weight...it will unnecessarily add to your ego and others will clearly feel and see the shallowness of it, the foolishness of it...so why to fool yourself when master himself warned you of that....
Once you know something , once you understand something...you will know it yourself and others will feel it too when u speak...the words will carry some weight and energy which will touch peoples hearts......
BEWARE THAT YOU DON'T FALL IN THAT TRAP.
THE FIRST LESSON I LEARNT FROM OSHO WAS WHEN HE SAID "DONT EVER SAY ANYTHING WHICH IS NOT YOUR EXPERIENCE OR UNDERSTANDING..........BEWARE OF REPEATING MY WORDS".........
So that is the first thing to remember as a seeker.......
Secondly,
keep on doing techniques till you get tired but don't get attached to any experiences that u go through......don't hold them dear to your heart though it's going to be very tempting.......for all experiences are of the body and you are not the body...
Thirdly,
Gradually learn to meditate alone.....at times with people and at times alone.Down the line that is going to be very important.Meditating in group is very easy and convenient...but that's not enough.Ultimately you are searching to face yourself and if you don't develop the guts to meditate alone.......you won't reach what you are unknowingly looking for.It's very easy to be in a group and dance and shout and laugh and do humming......and then be in silence.......but that's not enough.So don't chain yourself to groups if possible.
And lastly,
If you do these techniques honestly and with totality, a time will come when u will be able to take direct jump to silence.....at that point of time....try to find somebody who can handle the silence.
Once you have a taste of settling in silence ...you will not be able to handle it....it's very delicate,very soft,very fragile...it's a situation where one is empty of all the garbage but the new,the essential,the valuable has still not come......it's just on the verge of flowing in......you will need the right person to take you through it ...to help you settle in it and then to help you transcend it......and its almost impossible to find a person who can do that ......SO BE AWARE OF THIS AS WELL....
All the best......
Prem Kamal
