Dear friend...all human folly and suffering sprouts out of poor understanding...all means all...and poor understanding means "NOT BEING ABLE TO SEE THE LAWS OF NATURE".
A human mind is always in a continuous state of turbulence...a stream of uneasyness keeps flowing continously...even in the dreams. A few things or issues are constantly sucking the life energy like a parasite and there is no bliss whatsoever.
What is ur mind trying to sort out all the times... the insecurity, the fears, the greed, the anger, the boredom, the jealousy, the directionless of life, relationships...that's it, isnt it. I relate to so many ppl all around, responding to lots of friends...to ppl i have never met...to ppl i will never ever meet...the funny thing is the problems and issues concerned are just the same or very limited...so the whole of humanity is fighting with just a few basic issues and it's always been so.....
Coming to what u asked as to how u can understand or simplify a situation by understanding the laws of nature...
Take the example of a basic human trait "jealousy"...everybody goes through this at some point in one's life...now and then. Now everybody knows "jealousy" is neither desirable nor justified and still it keeps encompassing us time and again leading us into guilt...why does it happen.
Generally ppl try to drop jealousy...or try not to be jealous and this trying is an indication that one has not understood the basic problem. JEOLOUSY is not something which can be dropped like a piece of wood...it doesnt work that way.
Jealousy happens when somewhere in ur mind u feel or have this wrong idea that u own somebody...that u possess something...that it is urs...that it is urs forever...that a person or a thing belongs to u forever...or that u deserve something and not the other person...
Now this illusion or wrong understanding comes because one is not aware...one is not able to see and observe a basic law of law and i.e "that here nothing is urs...even ur body is not urs...or else one wld always stay young forever...or would be able to manipulate it according to ones fancy...one wld not have any grey hair...or old age...n on n on....u r not able to c that ur blood does'nt need ur permission to run in ur body...nor does ur kidney or for that matter anything...ur nails keep on growing whether u want or not...ur sleep doesnt need ur permission ....u don't even own ur body so to speak...u don't even own ur birth, life or death...here nothing belongs to u, its just here without ur choice...
So how can u have this idea of something belonging to u...if u just be aware about it "the jeolousy will never arise...it's not possible...even if u would try to be jeolous, it won't happen "...but one never sees this basic of law of nature
And the fight goes on with jealousy and other vices that come along with it...it's such a simple thing, just see....when ur body is not in ur control...ur breathing is not in ur control.......how can u control or possess anything, its sheer ignorance...if u c this simple fact , jeolousy is gone for ever without any effort...U WILL NEVER EVER TRY TO HOLD ON TO ANYTHING....BCOS NOW U KNOW THAT "IT'S NOT THE RULE"...
Take another example...assuming that u r going through a phase of insecurity...u r constantly paranoid abt this or that all the time...what do u do. U TRY TO RATIONALIZE or u try to take the attention away from this thought process of insecurity...u try to cover it up either by forgetting abt it or by starting to live in denial...but either way...whn u r in the phase of insecurity or when u r trying to divert ur attention from it, the problem stays...the feeling of insecurity keeps popping up again and again...
Why is it happening that way...it's simple...it's happening bcos u have not observed a basic of law of nature that "insecurity is a way of life...that's the way it is designed...it means that u can have no idea abt the future...and that's the way it stays...no matter what u do, still the future is never certain...death is bound to come for sure...and there is no security against so called death...isn't it... here nothing is sure and secure...insecurity is an essential foundation stone of existence...life is unpredictable...future is unpredictable...u can assume...u can make guesses...but still life is never certain...simple...if understand this u will never feel insecure about anything in life...if u understand a very simple law of nature all ur fears will disappear...all ur insecurities will disappear if u see that insecurity is the only secure way of life...but we keep missing such a small thing...almost everybody misses this point or never applies in life...
Lets take another situation...most of the problems arise when it comes dealing with humans...relationships...People are always complaining as to how the other person is creating hell for them...how all the miseries in their lives are bcos of "the other person"...how the person is breaking their hearts...men are complaining abt their women...women are unhappy about their men...this way or that way...some thing is always wrong with the other be it the boss in the office...be it the girlfriend or the boyfriend...be it the husband or the wife...be it this or that...it seems as if the other person is always responsible...
Now what is the confrontation and point of conflict in human relationship and how do we miss a simple law of nature..." why are we always trying to impose our opinion...our perception...our ideas...our desires on to the other...AND TO INSIST THAT I M RIGHT"...and this game of imposing oneself on to the other is happening all the time and it is suffocating...almost maddening...almost volcanic...this idea to play "Mr. Always Right...or Miss.Always Correct..." has brought in extreme negativity in all the relationships....
Why does this happen..and it happens everywhere without any exception...the reason is simple and very obvious..."existence has made everybody unique...u r as unique as everybody else " and if u understand such a simple thing...there won't be any conflicts....u will give the other person total freedom and u will be free of all the expectations...just understand that here everybody is unique and entitled to ones own life, ones own destiny, ones own understanding of things...and 'voila'...one is free...free from "the other"..free from expectations...free from desire to control the other...free from the blame game...free from everything so to speak...free from all the problems that arise in human relationships..."to each one it's own" becomes the mantra....that's the law of nature
AND IT IS LIKE THIS IN EVERY SITUATION...
BE IT DEATH..BE IT MONEY...BE IT HEALTH...BE IT ANYTHING....
IN ANY SITUATION JUST WAIT AND UNDERSTAND THE THE LAW OF NATURE AND U WILL BE LIBERATED...I CAN ASSURE U "THAT'S HOW IT IS"
ALL THE BEST...
Prem Kamal
Prem ji, as said by you, many a times we don't examine our emotions. I must learn to trace my emotions to their roots. This write-up poked me in a way! Thanks a lot for taking time to answer me so elaborately :) Take care
ReplyDeleteJyoti ji.....dont try to trace the roots of ur emotions, for there are no roots. Just imagine that a known person comes and says something nasty to u and suddenly u feel hurt.....now bcos of that hurt u get emotional in a certain way.....where are the roots to it.....now just imagine that an unknown person does the same to u...again u feel hurt and get emotional.....where and how wld u ever be able to trace the roots to these emotions.....are the roots in the words said by somebody...or in ur mind...or in ur heart...or in ur senstivity ....this is endless and it is endless bcos its illusion...there exist no roots and that is why the vicious circle of thoughts and emotions gets better of everybody.....bcos everybody tries to understand and find the roots and reason to it...its like the trapping rings of Abhimanyu in mahabharta...thr is no escape route.....the 1st circle or trap is connected to the seventh trap and if u move out of the seventh trap u end up in the first trap.....don't waste ur time on this......a new year has started...just see to it that it doesn't become a new start to the same old habits and patterns.....keep doing what i had suggested and once u r able to do it continuously for some period of time....ill suggest u the next step....slowly i m guiding u to the center...to ur center....and in that center u will find the roots to everything ....that center is the source and starting point of everything....everything means everything...pls help urself in reaching ur center.......rest jaisy aapki marzi...)))...
DeletePrem ji....am confused!! (Osho's words ring in my ears- 'My whole work is to confuse you') :D And, you know what I do when am confused? I return to basics! So, am going to start my 1 minute meditation again(haan, main bhatak gayi thi idhar udhar :P). You have freed me, in a way, by asking me not to trace the roots. Thank you for being my guide! :) :) :)
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