Why to meditate....................?

No need , no need at all  to meditate whether u have problems or not...........
And who told you that one should meditate only when there is some problem...........
There are people who meditate even without any problems and there are people who don't meditate despite having all kinds of problems..........

And honestly speaking your time to start meditation has actually come........
When i started meditating i had a perfect life, life with no problems..........
And i am telling you same happened to Gautam Buddha........
Because once you have  many problems or any problem ,then where will you find the time to meditate..........
From where will you get the energy to meditate......
The problems will rob you of all the time and energy......

A man with problems or anxieties is just trapped in a vicious circle of running and running and running  more.........for this reason or that reason and he just cannot see that he is being fooled all the time.....time just passes  away and what is time...time is life....isn't it......

Have you seen that while running you cannot see things properly..actually u cannot see anything at all....it's all blurred all around.....and one keeps running.

AND IN THIS WORLD ALMOST EVERYBODY IS RUNNING........AND I HAVE ABSOLUTELY NO PROBLEMS WITH IT........

The real problem of life actually starts when one is free of problems and life kind of becomes directionless........
Directionless because, mind always need something to solve or look forward to and once u have what u wanted then mind gets stuck in boredom....
Not that it disappears.......boredom comes in........and then that boredom brings lots of issues gradually which may turn into huge problems..........
And then one gets again busy in running.........

So you can  make most of this opportunity and start meditating or else this life does'nt spare anybody.......
Here nobody remains a virgin, life f..ks all.......sooner or later..........
Don't wait for problems to come.......because once they do then you will never be able to meditate 

And i am telling you from my first hand experience "life is a waste without meditation , it's just that you have no idea about it........"..........

Still it's your life, feel absolutely free to flow with your understanding of it.........whether u meditate or not..its your wish

Secondly you are saying "you don't have any problems............", well then why have  you written this question to me.
I don't even know you.......if you are already so happy and everything is so orgasmically hunky dory  in your life then why would you waste your precious time in writing to somebody you don't know..........

And i can tell you.... you  are already realizing that this life and all that you have is not getting you much...........
You are already feeling stuck in a rut............and if u are feeling so... ..then it's a sign of intelligence.......
You have some opportunity to do something worthwhile with your life 
Don't let your mind get better of you 

There is something much higher available which you can find inside you , something which will just complete you or else the "itch" stays forever....... 

                                                         Prem Kamal

....... What is the way out?

You wrote.........(want to be contended with myself only)......

My dear it is not possible and it is suicidal.
Please understand this life is about relating , this life is about interdependence, you cannot escape from this basic fact of life...whatever you do others will come in...

YOU DEPEND ON OTHERS FOR A LOT OF THINGS, DIRECTLY OR INDIRECTLY AND VICE-VERSA.........and it has its own charm.

And if you ever try to just become one dimensional, just being contended with yourself , it can be unhealthy in many ways.....

Life is not about squeezing in or becoming uni dimensional ......
Its about growth , growth in all dimensions of life ,
Growth in relating with yourself and with others...and with everything........

So be content with your self and you will be in harmony with others ...
And be  content with others and you will be in harmony with yourself..........
Don't divide and don't discriminate ....don't discriminate you and the other.........
You are the reflection of the other and the other is an extension of you..you are connected..........
The problem is you have not seen this connection..........and you don't know how to see and feel this connection......
No problem......you have already taken the step towards it..today or tomorrow you will be able to see the connection .

SO THE IDEA TO BE LIMITED , WITHDRAWN OR COCOONED WITH AND TO YOURSELF ONLY IS NOT HEALTHY.....

Further you are saying ( nothing and nothing from outside....)

Again you are dividing.....there is no inside and there is no outside........its a wrong idea......
You can enjoy this idea but don't take it seriously and don't fall in love with this imaginary inside and repulsion for outside...
Here everything is one.....sometimes move in harmony with urself ...all by yourself and then when the cycle changes move with  others in harmony

Now the real question should have been " how to be contended....satisfied.......where is the missing link.....?"......

Well,
The very basic ....remove this " I want"......
You are saying (I want).....want is imposing and it misguides.....
You can move in the direction of your wants but don't expect that your wants should be fulfilled or will be fulfilled all times or shall be fulfilled the way you expect them.

Here nothing goes as per anybody's wants and it's good that way or else this world won't last for a minute.........
Just imagine so many people wanting so many things and all of them are contradictory to each other ............
This world would be all dust and debris in a fraction of time ........

The problem is that  generally people don't know how to be contended...
It's not about being contended just with yourself or with others.....

Contentment has nothing to do with anybody and it has actually nothing to do with yourself.

Contentment means sincerity, totality....totality of putting your energy where your intuition and instincts are guiding you to.......
And then not anticipating  and expecting only one kind of result...

Actually the totality of being present in the moment of action or relating is going to be so fulfilling that there wont be any expectations of the end result......

The process shall make you fulfilled and contended to the core...........
But generally all our actions are motivated by the end result and bcos of that the the process towards that end result becomes or seems less important...
And i am telling you , the process is the end result........there is no path of happiness and contentment.........
Happiness is the path and path itself is the happiness....
If u r happy u will enjoy the path and if are enjoying while being on the  path...that itself brings contentment and happiness.............

If u r just focused on end result , u will become clever and a manipulator...and it will not help in bringing you to what you are looking for in your heart......though you may become a big achiever materialistically... 

Next...when we talk of outside it means "others"...........
Well in this world "the other" and whatever it is , be it money ,be it people , be it education or knowledge , be it anything ......it can never fulfill you, that's another law of the game ,even if u are fulfilled in this moment in any relationship ,its not necessary that it's always going to remain so........ so don't be dejected and don't go in shell out of fear of failing......be spontaneous....and be prudent in your understanding that in this life nothing will ever nourish you to the core...........

The only thing that will help you blossom with contentment is "love" and love means to move without expectations in the direction of your choice...love means to be free from the idea of a certain kind of end result .....love means to be total, sincere and present...."in right here right now".......love means surrender to this moment........there is no other way out.......

                                                             Prem kamal  

Basic understanding of life.......?

First please understand what is the meaning of basic understanding............how do u define it......how do u know this is the right basic understanding....

Basic understanding means ,the law of nature.............
whenever you are in trouble,never listen to your mind ....
just look and see the law of nature about the relevant issue.........you will never go wrong,not possible.

But generally we are guided by what we have read or what we have been told about by others.......that is called "conditioning".....its called "being guided by the past".

And i am not saying it's wrong or it's criminal.........what i am saying is you have different options to listen to.Different parametres by which u can decide.....

So how to choose and what to listen to..........listen to the parents or the books or our past experience or what......?

Always listen to the laws of nature .......what is natural......and always support what is natural......
You cannot cheat the nature....even if today your intelligence tells you  otherwise, laws of the ultimate can never be undermined ........sooner than later they will prevail.

And thats the difference between  a wise person and a so called intelligent person.........
the so called intelligent person will always try to be socially correct...
he will always think in terms of profit and loss....loss and gain..........
But the wise person will think in terms of being naturally correct....he will trust the nature's course of justice and its parameters.

And i am not criticizing anybody.......to each one its own...its everybody's freedom to go for what they want...........
But the wise one will always go what the laws of nature tell.........no matter what........and he will never be unhappy......not possible....... 

So that is the fundamentals of "basic  understanding".

 
Now when you become natural or apply the existential concepts rather than the socially correct parameters, don't think that  people will applaud you.....
No....don't create this illusion ...

But if you become existentially correct you won't need anybody's aplause or affirmations........
there won't be any need to expalin.....you will just keep on moving........
You explain only when you want others to understand you and support you because you urself are not sure and aware about what you are doing....

But when by nature you become correct , you start working by intuition, instincts and senstivity and then you know u r right but u don't care about others support.........
you actually won't care about being right or wrong,the question will not arise...

you will just go on singing and enjoying your song......

So you have to see as to what you want, to be socially correct all the times or existentially happy all your life.....choice is yours....

If you are socially correct you will look cool and fine from outside but chances are that most of the times you will be boiling inside...as if getting fried in the oil pan...a state of constant struggle where you are trying to make everybody happy and in return you will desire to be appreciated.

But if you trust existence and feel it is supreme....much higher than the minds concepts and rationalizations.....you will always be centered inside and in "let go" outside... though to others you may appear to be offending at times......may be most of the times.......

But that's the price one has to pay............

Prem kamal

Are you already not doing that....is everybody not already busy in doing so.........
But that is not enough , isn't it and that is why you are here asking me this question.
On the periphery all these words that you  wrote sound good and perfect,
But if you look a bit deeper as to what u r saying....you will laugh at how these words are fooling you again and again

You are saying "i want to take care of my children,i want to educate them..."............
Your question should be "what else should i do other than this that i get some depth,some peace some meaning in life ?"

All this rigmarole that you are  already neck deep in , in  the name of achievements and growth... is not making you reach anywhere except creating anxieties and multiplying them.

You are already well educated ....why don't you ask yourself as to what  have you  gained by this education...is it enough?..is it satisfying?....what after it.....
May be you are able to earn a little more and a little easily....
May be you are socially very well accepted,having status and all.......
But is it enough?......the life is slipping and you are not finding any sense in the repetition of the same process day in and day out....
What are you trying to offer your children by giving them the same...just ask yourself this question.........
 
And i am not saying don't do all this........
All i am saying is " have u reached anywhere by doing all this..."
Has anybody reached anywhere just by doing all this...
There is something more to life....and you are  already looking for it in a way....and that is why u r here at this moment..................

Then u r saying  "i want them to settle down .........".........
Now this is hilarious....are you settled yourself....
And what do u mean by settle down....having a house , money, job.......
But you already have all this.....and you are not feeling settled urself  and you are running for more of it in the guise of taking care of your children
What kind of settling down do you desire for your children.... you yourself are not clear about it.

And then you are  saying "i want to give happiness to them.."..........
And this sounds funny....."are you happy yourself...?"...
Count the moments of happiness that u get in a day and how fast they turn otherwise........
How can you give something that you don't have ...
How can you give happiness to your children when you  yourself don't have any clue about it......
 
Here everybody wants to give happiness to their children without even realizing that they themselves don't have it...........
And children also laugh listening to their parents and what they are proposing because they see that the very same is missing in their own lives........
And people go on running all their lives just in the name of giving happiness and all the other nonsense to their children.....
And then they die........but Happiness never comes.......death does.......

And u have asked "am i going wrong ...?'.".....
It's not about going wrong......it's about  not learning, it's about  chasing the same ideas ..again and again and again..it's about being incomplete.
You are not able to see that if one house is not giving you peace how will 5 give..........
If one car is not giving you the satisfaction how will more give that.........not possible....
On the contrary all your energy and time will disappear in maintaining all these that you go on accumulating ...

Money, Education, Children and other things have their importance and place  in this world but it is not enough..........just see that........

So try to find something else other than all this as well .............

And remember another fundamental rule of existence ......all the things which are of this world...which are of outer...which are other than you..are not meant to satiate you.

They can provide comfort....which we call "Suvidha" in Hindi...
But they cannot provide "Satiation...The fulfillment"......which we call "Tripti" ........


                                                            Prem Kamal

So what do you propose...to kill oneself...and then what......
To take birth again and then suffer again...and again come to this very question....
You have no idea as to how nature works......

Rather then asking "why to live.........."  ask  "why do we suffer....why does life becomes a suffering.....sooner or later...."

And i can assure you there is no suffering,its all your imagination ,all illusions which you take seriously and create a web of suffering around you and then you suffer more in trying to come out of this web.......

Please become aware and develop this art of seeing how suffering begins ......
How the seed of suffering germinates ...and then how it grows into monstrous proportions...

Life is suffering only when u have "whys"...
And all whys come when your desires fail and your fears come up.......
"Whys" come when all your great ideas begin to fall flat on the floor and things begin to slip from your control.......
All "whys" come when the sand underneath begins to move away and your building of great plans that you had imagined begin to crash into pieces

As long as things are going one's way one feels great....very intelligent and special
One never says "Oh, i don't want to live or why to live ..."...
Those moments when we keep winning and the world keeps spinning ,we tend to get lost and we don't want to think "what happens when we stop winning and when the world stops spinning" 
We forget the slippery nature of things in this world in those moments of highs....
Those moments of so called success intoxicate us and "sky becomes the limit".......

You never thought about this question  when you were in love or successful.........
In the moments of glory we take things for granted ,as if we deserved it ....

But sooner or later the  pendulum changes the direction....
Slowly world starts falling apart ...health begins to go down,one begins to fail in life  or death of somebody's happen and one gets shattered...or something or the other happens...that''s the law of nature which we dont want to remember...

Things stop going our way..... becomes all topsy turvy...and then we complain
And we complain as if some grave injustice is being done.....

When we get goodies in life ..we think we deserved them and when they go away, we want to die and complain and suffer...........

WE SIMPLY DON'T SEE THAT THINGS COME ON THEIR OWN AND THEY GO ON THEIR OWN....
AND WE GET ATTACHED AND TRY TO CONTROL AND THEN WE SUFFER..........

Or else there is no suffering in life........
One is born, one has to die...where is the suffering...
One comes,one has to go....one sleeps,one has to get up....
And all this is happening on its own......"THE LEELA..."

Don't interfere with your "whys".......
And u will be more than thankfull and happy for no reason...........
Life is fun without any "whys"....just the way it is............
Life is a blessing when you do things totally and then surrender totally.....surrender to whatever that may come...

"SAB USKI RAZA.......IT'S NOT IN OUR HANDS....NOTHING IS IN YOUR HANDS..."


                                                     Prem Kamal

Well my dear, meditation has nothing to do with music or no music , lying down or standing , sleeping or not sleeping .

Firstly, please understand that you may listen to nice music but still not be meditative...or may not listen to any music and still be absolutely meditative.

You may be in silence so to speak and still not be meditative and u may be talking and still be absolutely meditative.

You may not sleep but that doesn’t mean u are in meditation and u may sleep and still be totally meditative.

Now this is a fundamental problem that every seeker faces.............

"what is meditation" and u have all these so called camp leaders who go on telling u all kinds of nonsense.

Coming to your point, to sleep after listening to music or discourse or when sitting  in  silence is absolutely perfect.

Meditation is a technique to reach the truth , to experience the truth ..to become the truth........and see the game that’s going on and how u r out of it already.....

And the first condition to that is .....to be relaxed ,to be in a state of no control
And sleep is the easiest when it comes to losing control...to get away from mind........

So don’t worry , don’t even think whether it will be meditation or not or else you will end up forcing yourself like some people who are just forcing themselves to sit n sit and have frowns on their forehead...........

No ...there is no need to force...it would be absolutely non meditative or anti meditative....if u force yourself in anything...

Learn to relax..if sleep happens... good, if it doesn’t..very good
And slowly u will begin to experience gaps........a state of presence...no mind...though for a few seconds........

But the main point is "never make anything a problem.........”
if u r feeling in a let go and relaxed after anything ...u r on the right way..........have my word for it......)))))))))"

Prem Kamal