You wrote.........(want to be contended with myself only)......
My dear it is not possible and it is suicidal.
Please understand this life is about relating , this life is about interdependence, you cannot escape from this basic fact of life...whatever you do others will come in...
YOU DEPEND ON OTHERS FOR A LOT OF THINGS, DIRECTLY OR INDIRECTLY AND VICE-VERSA.........and it has its own charm.
And if you ever try to just become one dimensional, just being contended with yourself , it can be unhealthy in many ways.....
Life is not about squeezing in or becoming uni dimensional ......
Its about growth , growth in all dimensions of life ,
Growth in relating with yourself and with others...and with everything........
So be content with your self and you will be in harmony with others ...
And be content with others and you will be in harmony with yourself..........
Don't divide and don't discriminate ....don't discriminate you and the other.........
You are the reflection of the other and the other is an extension of you..you are connected..........
The problem is you have not seen this connection..........and you don't know how to see and feel this connection......
No problem......you have already taken the step towards it..today or tomorrow you will be able to see the connection .
SO THE IDEA TO BE LIMITED , WITHDRAWN OR COCOONED WITH AND TO YOURSELF ONLY IS NOT HEALTHY.....
Further you are saying ( nothing and nothing from outside....)
Again you are dividing.....there is no inside and there is no outside........its a wrong idea......
You can enjoy this idea but don't take it seriously and don't fall in love with this imaginary inside and repulsion for outside...
Here everything is one.....sometimes move in harmony with urself ...all by yourself and then when the cycle changes move with others in harmony
Now the real question should have been " how to be contended....satisfied.......where is the missing link.....?"......
Well,
The very basic ....remove this " I want"......
You are saying (I want).....want is imposing and it misguides.....
You can move in the direction of your wants but don't expect that your wants should be fulfilled or will be fulfilled all times or shall be fulfilled the way you expect them.
Here nothing goes as per anybody's wants and it's good that way or else this world won't last for a minute.........
Just imagine so many people wanting so many things and all of them are contradictory to each other ............
This world would be all dust and debris in a fraction of time ........
The problem is that generally people don't know how to be contended...
It's not about being contended just with yourself or with others.....
Contentment has nothing to do with anybody and it has actually nothing to do with yourself.
Contentment means sincerity, totality....totality of putting your energy where your intuition and instincts are guiding you to.......
And then not anticipating and expecting only one kind of result...
Actually the totality of being present in the moment of action or relating is going to be so fulfilling that there wont be any expectations of the end result......
The process shall make you fulfilled and contended to the core...........
But generally all our actions are motivated by the end result and bcos of that the the process towards that end result becomes or seems less important...
And i am telling you , the process is the end result........there is no path of happiness and contentment.........
Happiness is the path and path itself is the happiness....
If u r happy u will enjoy the path and if are enjoying while being on the path...that itself brings contentment and happiness.............
If u r just focused on end result , u will become clever and a manipulator...and it will not help in bringing you to what you are looking for in your heart......though you may become a big achiever materialistically...
Next...when we talk of outside it means "others"...........
Well in this world "the other" and whatever it is , be it money ,be it people , be it education or knowledge , be it anything ......it can never fulfill you, that's another law of the game ,even if u are fulfilled in this moment in any relationship ,its not necessary that it's always going to remain so........ so don't be dejected and don't go in shell out of fear of failing......be spontaneous....and be prudent in your understanding that in this life nothing will ever nourish you to the core...........
The only thing that will help you blossom with contentment is "love" and love means to move without expectations in the direction of your choice...love means to be free from the idea of a certain kind of end result .....love means to be total, sincere and present...."in right here right now".......love means surrender to this moment........there is no other way out.......
Prem kamal
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