Nobody understands me....

Guruji...i always feel that nobody understands me...nobody has ever understood me....
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{ this guruji sounds so funny to me all the time...)))...as if i have become ancient...)))...}

PERTAINING  to what u said,

I hear this so often...almost all the times...the same feeling expressed in so many different ways...that " nobody understands me"... and i always feel that this is a wrong point of focus.

So what if nobody understands u.
Why do u want that others should understand u .

But to your question i must update ur understanding that:

Nobody understands u bcos nobody is meant to understand u...that's not the law.....
Nobody understands u bcos even u don't understand urself at all...
You urself are at a loss to figure out as to what u want...
As to what u are looking for ...
As to what exactly u are searching for...
Nobody understands u bcos nobody understands oneself and hence nobody understands anybody in this world.

America doesn't understand Iran...Russia doesn't understand America...India and Pakistan are always at a loss to understand each other...same goes for Israel AND  perhaps rest of the world...

A man doesn't understand a woman...a child is always trying to figure out the crazyness of the adults...a mother in law cannot understand daughter in law...a husband is always trying to figure out his wife and vice versa ...

One religion just doesn't understand the concepts of the other one...

"the straights" cant understand the bi's ...

So this is an eternal struggle going on...and here everybody is busy pointing fingers and blaming others ,exactly like u r doing...believing that "the other is hell"...

Here everybody is swinging on one's own  big multi directional pendulum of emotions and thought conditioning...and u expect others to stop and get down from their rides and then patiently try to listen and understand you...)))...u r asking for the impossible.

And let me tell u as to why it is not possible to understand others or for that matter urself...

There are 3 dimensions to  human life....body, mind and soul.

Bodies are totally different, the genetics the looks etc etc...every body is totally unique.

Minds are not absolutely different...which we call ideology or like mindedness...the thoughts can be similar at times but very rarely similar at the same time....the problem with mind is that most of the times it always runs to the opposite of what it hears...it doesn't want to agree with with what is proposed ....it does so bcos  thats the only way mind can survive...if it starts agreeing with what is proposed to it, it will die immediately...and since u have no other faculty to understand other than mind u end up being a slave to it...it is always creating fights in u by running to the opposite of what anybody says.....that is why u have this feeling that nobody understands u...that is why mind is always running and fighting inside and outside...mind survives on conflicts and it has a mechanism to create them on its own...u cannot have a total understanding unless u r away from mind...mind center  can never bring understanding ...mind is the wrong center to work from....

And soul is the same and one for everybody.

So, the world of body is the world of needs, there is deep struggle for the resources to feed the needs of the body...

The world of mind /thoughts is a struggle of desires or ego or control  or conflicts or superiority...

And the world of soul is the world of harmony...no struggle...just oneness...perfect understanding...and that is why budhas are in perfect harmony...in perfect oneness...in state of uninterrupted bliss....total clarity.

The essence of what i am saying is that  as long as one is living  through mind center , please don't expect to be understood or to be able to understand anybody...its not possible.You will have to understand urself first....u will have to transcend ur mind first...and once u understand urself ,this desire to be understood by others will vanish forever..u will laugh at the stupidity of what u were doing and what others are doing.

And it's a big unease to live in mind...
Transcend to the higher platform...start meditating...for that is the only way to understand urself and perhaps understand everybody...nothing else will work and u can have my word on it.
Drop this idea and desire to be understood by anybody...

Understand urself first...understand where u r...find ur real center...ur true self....

And if u don't do so u will keep suffering , u will make others suffer and ur life is just going to be a waste...choice is urs.

And now u cannot even say that "nobody ever told  u..."....))))))))...
This is the whole journey of humans...
from needs to desires to silence...and that is the only difference between human beings and other species of this existence...that only humans have to go through this journey...no plant no animal no stone no other matter has this setup available in their lives...they don't have a mind, they don't have desires, they dont have sense of rationalization...their way is pre programmed...yours is not. 

All the best 

                                            Prem Kamal