Now ....what is a cycle........cycle is something repetitive........like the cycle wheel........which just go on repeating itself whenever it moves.
Here everything is cyclical except the "person of awareness"......rest every movement is cyclical..
For example......a buisnessman...what he does,......his cycle is simple..........he makes money..he invest the surplus and makes more money..then he takes a house and then another house.....and he makes a factory or shop ,then another shop or whatever......then he invests more and then a car and another car and another house..........and then with each cycle there are sub cycles.......more investments means more liabilities bcos one has to keep feeding the investment...more house means more maintenence ...more insurance ...more servants......similarly more cars.....and on and on.....so it's the cycle of assets and cycle of liabilities.....
Am i saying one should not earn or work.........no,not at all........what i am saying is that one doesn't see that one is not able to identify this repetition and this repetition is not getting one anywhere........just anxiety.....one is not able to find other reasons and ways to live except running and accumulating through this cycle .
Similarly,a woman has her psychological cycles.........her patterns as a mother...as wife.....as daughter..........and it goes for everybody......cycle and patterns means repititive behavior, no freshness,same response.......where everything is absolutely predictable ....where one knows how the other person will react.......and all his actions or responses can be controlled by applying psychology or reverse psychology........that's why every mother behaves in almost similar way and every mother in law reacts in a similar way.....and same goes for everybody.....man or woman.....or lovers or husband wife.....
Now , all patterns are of mind....are of knowledge gathered......of the so called conditioning..............almost all human beings look tired and bored...........because they are repeating everything in their lives.......
We have trapped ourselves from all around in the name of securing ourselves that now there is no scope for something new.....and the more we are securing ourselves ,more we feel threatened and insecure......
Now why does this repetition occur........it's simple to understand......
First and the foremost is that we are clouded by our so called intelligence and knowledge.........it's so dense that we don't wait for a moment before reacting..........we just react out of that stale knowledge from past and life is constantly changing....our so called intelligence keeps us failing all the time but we dont see it .Like for example i mentioned the pattern of a businessman..........this man will never try to figure out that he is wasting his precious life for stupid things.....more houses more cars more production more this and more that.....for what..........how much does one need.......its like accumulation and securing yourself for eternity while one has a shelf life for few years.....and that too who knows.....and he will give thousands of reasons to do so....and he will never question his intelligence because its clouded by so called success.....and same is the case with everybody....we are in a state of hallucination..."self deception"............
Take Parents for example.......
They want their children to be good human beings...now if u ask them what is a good human being they are at a loss to understand..........
Once i was talking to a woman and she said the same thing about making her children "good human beings".........and she was trying so hard to make them so...almost killing herself with tension.I said u want to make your children like yourself.......and she said "o no no...i m so messed up and miserable"........then i said "u want them to become like your husband....".......and she said "o no ..not at all........he is just lost in his work and making money....and is just dedicated to his own world and bla bla bla......she couldn't come down to even one person...who she wanted to make her children like...........from Michael Jackson to Mahatma Gandhi.......she couldn't agree on even 1 name......
So this is a pattern.......patterns of parents.....they are just putting all their energies repetitively into ideas which they are not clear about....and they go on repeating them without actually being aware as to what they actually want and why.........
The second reason which makes people fall into cycles is because of lack of relaxation.
We have become "human doings......instead of human beings".............
We are just running fast without even knowing where do we want to go and reach......and what after reaching there...........reaching somewhere has become the mantra instead of living.....living right here right now.....
And the momentum and gust of this movement is so much that we don't even know what does it mean to be " right here right now....."......we are just guided by our mind center and we don't know how to stop...instead we end up trusting our mind more....and this mind is getting crazier with every passing moment.........
People sleep with their head full of thoughts and people get up in the morning with their head full of more thoughts........and to brush of all these thoughts they fall into some other trap of thoughts or words....they start praying or reciting some mantra to distract this continuous flow of directional thoughts.....or they want to get lost in some other activity in the name of work......its just a vicious circle of craziness that nobody sees..........and thus with age people start looking ugly ...generally it happens like that...bcos their mind is continuously burdened with thoughts and all the pressure of that gets reflected in their eyes and faces because they are just below the brain.......and thoughts never take you anywhere....they are not meant to......if u go on trusting your mind you will end up in more fear....nothing else..........
So again the question comes......."what to do "..........
First and the very basic.........."slow down..........slow down physically ....at least when you are alone.....drink water slowly..eat food slowly....take shower slowly.......just slow down,wherever u can.......that's the very basic and initial step".
Secondly.........next time when you feel that u r falling in a similar situation,something cyclical , don't react,be quiet....don't even analyze.......be quiet.......don't give energy to your thoughts this way or that way......forget about the person whose presence is generating this situation.......just stay quiet and keep looking at whatever is happening inside........now this is tedious...but the most important.........if you can learn this art on your own ...good or else find somebody who knows it.......there is no other way out to get rid of your cycles and patterns...........there is no way to transcend them other than what i mentioned above.........))))))........make a strong foundation by slowing down the momentum of life ..and then develop the capacity to be quiet..to be non judgmental in that moment..to be non analytical in the heat of the moment...............
Lastly.....learn to enjoy your company.......learn to be with yourself..........just like that..........with no agenda.......it's miraculous....it heals....don't just go on listening or reading what i tell,apply it......try it................
Prem Kamal
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