Understanding and Applying the laws of nature...

Dear friend...all human folly and suffering sprouts out of poor understanding...all means all...and poor understanding means "NOT BEING ABLE TO SEE THE LAWS OF NATURE".

A human mind is always in a continuous state of turbulence...a stream of uneasyness keeps flowing continously...even in the dreams. A few things or  issues are constantly sucking the life energy like a parasite and there is no bliss whatsoever.

What is ur mind trying to sort out all the times... the insecurity, the fears, the greed, the anger, the boredom, the jealousy, the directionless of life, relationships...that's it, isnt it. I relate to so many ppl all around, responding to lots of friends...to ppl i have never met...to ppl i will never ever meet...the funny thing is the problems and issues concerned are just the same or very limited...so the whole of humanity is fighting with just a few basic issues and it's always been so.....

Coming to what u asked as to how u can understand or simplify a situation by understanding the laws of nature...

Take the example of a basic human trait "jealousy"...everybody goes through this at some point in one's life...now and then. Now everybody knows "jealousy" is neither desirable nor justified and still it keeps encompassing us time and again leading us into guilt...why does it happen.

Generally ppl try to drop jealousy...or try not to be jealous and this trying is an indication that one has not understood the basic problem. JEOLOUSY is not something which can be dropped like a piece of wood...it doesnt work that way.

Jealousy happens when somewhere in ur mind u feel or have this wrong idea that u own somebody...that u possess something...that it is urs...that it is urs forever...that a person or a thing belongs to u forever...or that u deserve something and not the other person...

Now this illusion or wrong understanding comes because one is not aware...one is not able to see and observe a basic law of law and i.e "that here nothing is urs...even ur body is not urs...or else one wld always stay young forever...or would be able to manipulate it according to ones fancy...one wld not have any grey hair...or old age...n on n on....u r not able to c that ur blood does'nt need ur permission to run in ur body...nor does ur kidney or for that matter anything...ur nails keep on growing whether u want or not...ur sleep doesnt need ur permission ....u don't even own ur body so to speak...u don't  even own ur birth, life or death...here nothing belongs to u, its just here without ur choice...

So how can u have this idea of something belonging to u...if u just be aware about it "the jeolousy will never arise...it's not possible...even if u would try to be jeolous, it won't happen "...but one never sees this basic of law of nature

And the fight goes on with jealousy and other vices that come along with it...it's such a simple thing, just see....when ur body is not in ur control...ur breathing is not in ur control.......how can u control or possess anything, its sheer ignorance...if u c this simple fact , jeolousy is gone for ever without any effort...U WILL NEVER EVER TRY TO HOLD ON TO ANYTHING....BCOS NOW U KNOW THAT "IT'S NOT THE RULE"...

Take another example...assuming that u r going through a phase of insecurity...u r constantly paranoid abt this or that all the time...what do u do. U TRY TO  RATIONALIZE or u try to take the attention away from this thought process of insecurity...u try to cover it up either by forgetting abt it or by starting to live in denial...but either way...whn u r in the phase of insecurity or when u r trying to divert ur attention from it, the problem stays...the feeling of insecurity keeps popping up again and again...

Why is it happening that way...it's simple...it's happening bcos u have not observed a basic of law of nature that "insecurity is a way of life...that's the way it is designed...it means that u can have no idea abt the future...and that's the way it stays...no matter what u do, still the future is never certain...death is bound to come for sure...and there is no security against so called death...isn't it... here nothing is sure and secure...insecurity is an essential foundation stone of existence...life is unpredictable...future is unpredictable...u can assume...u can make guesses...but still  life is never certain...simple...if understand this u  will never feel insecure about anything in life...if u understand a very simple law of nature all ur fears will disappear...all ur insecurities will disappear if u see that insecurity is the only secure way of life...but we keep missing such a small thing...almost everybody misses this point or never applies in life...

Lets take another situation...most of the problems arise when it comes dealing with humans...relationships...People are always complaining as to how the other person is creating hell for them...how all the miseries in their lives are bcos of "the other person"...how the person is breaking their hearts...men are complaining abt their women...women are unhappy about their men...this way or that way...some thing is always wrong with the other be it the boss in the office...be it the girlfriend or the boyfriend...be it the husband or the wife...be it this or that...it seems as if the other person is always responsible...  

Now what is the confrontation and point of conflict in human relationship and how do we miss a simple law of nature..." why are we always trying to impose our opinion...our perception...our ideas...our desires on to the other...AND TO INSIST THAT I M RIGHT"...and this game of imposing oneself on to the other is happening all the time and it is suffocating...almost maddening...almost volcanic...this idea to play "Mr. Always Right...or Miss.Always Correct..." has brought in extreme negativity in all the relationships....

Why does this happen..and it happens everywhere without any exception...the reason is simple and very obvious..."existence has made everybody unique...u r as unique as everybody else " and if u understand such a simple thing...there won't be any conflicts....u will give the other person total freedom and u will be free of all the expectations...just understand that here everybody is unique and entitled to ones own life, ones own destiny, ones own understanding of things...and 'voila'...one is free...free from "the  other"..free from expectations...free from desire to control the other...free from the blame game...free from everything so to speak...free from all the problems that arise in human relationships..."to each one it's own" becomes the mantra....that's the law of nature

AND IT IS LIKE THIS IN EVERY SITUATION...
BE IT DEATH..BE IT MONEY...BE IT HEALTH...BE IT ANYTHING....
IN ANY SITUATION JUST WAIT AND UNDERSTAND THE THE LAW OF NATURE AND U WILL BE LIBERATED...I CAN ASSURE U "THAT'S HOW IT IS"

ALL THE BEST...

                                                   
                                               Prem Kamal
   

Afraid of getting hurt.........

As long as u  r alive and ur heart and mind functions fine...u r bound to get hurt, have no doubts about it.To not to get hurt, either u have to be dead or be like a stone.

Now  u r saying that u dont want to get hurt.....well, mere "wanting" won't fetch you anything...the wisdom lies in understanding the situation that u r in.

Getting hurt has 2 aspects.
 
1. Getting physically hurt...well be ware of it and avoid it, that brings real suffering ...if u are physically hurt, get the treatment, that's the only thing possible.

2. Getting hurt mentally...well this is a major issue with everybody...knowingly or unknowingly, this way or that way, sooner or later everybody keeps getting hurt.


Further more... getting  mentally hurt, again has 2 aspects.

A normal person gets hurt and it generates lots of anger, hatred, bad vibes, negativity, pain and so many other complexes...and on the other hand if a wise person gets hurt , a so called enlightened one gets hurt... that generates compassion , a sense of let go , a feeling of wonder about what happened....a wondering about the strange ways of life.

Generally when u are getting hurt...it generates resentment , a feeling of having let down , a feeling where u close urself towards situations and people , while if somebody like Buddha or Kabir or Osho gets hurt...they will just smile...they will feel compassionate...they will just wonder and that's  about it.

Don't ever think that an enlytened person doesn't get hurt. When an angry man spat on Buddha, Buddha didnt get angry...nor was he like a stone...he just watched the situation compassionately  and let it go...It happened with guru nanak so many times...it happened with osho so many times...he was hurt and he was compassionate....it happened to Jesus even while he was being crucified....he was hurt that he was trying to tell something to people for their own good and still they were treating him like that...still he was not angry but compassionate.

Now generally speaking,  when does a person gets hurt .

1.when  ones knowledge about something is contradicted.
2.when the other person has an opinion about you which you don't like
3.when the other person doesn't behave or respond the way u want or expect
4.when the other person doesn't turn up the way  u thought about him/her...like in case of  people having heart breaks.

Well,

1. In first case please remember that what u know is very little...what u don't know is far far bigger...and what u can never know is limitless, so don't take your knowledge seriously...drop the argument even if u feel u r right...u won't feel hurt.

2. In second case please understand people have their own parameters to analyse and synthesise. Their rationalization may not always appeal to you and it is not in your control. What others think about u should not matter at all if u don't find any divisibility inside urself about urself. So they are entitled to have their own set of understanding about you...don't try to justify if u think otherwise...don't take it to ur heart bcos if the other person is right then he/she is right and if the other person is wrong about his opinion of you then he is anyways wrong....why bother urself.

3. In third case please understand that in this world  everybody is unique.....from the physical features...to the mind set....to the conditioning.....n on and on. So here nobody is born to fulfill ur expectations or ur desires....that is not the rule....so kindly do urself a favour by not asking for something which is not in the law book of nature....it is natural to expect but please understand that it is also natural that ur expectations are not going to be fulfilled the way u want every time....so no point in getting hurt if u understand this.

4. The fourth case is basically a case of complexes...which is also known as fear of rejection. Generally it happens that a person goes through a "failed  affair or heart break " and comes a fear of rejection...and sometimes relations keep on failing and consequently a person  develops  this phobia of "getting hurt"...a person goes into a withdrawal...the introvert mode....well my dear.... be in a "spontaneous mode" rather than living in all these fancy ideas of feeling loved or getting hurt...please understand the temporary nature of things in this world....here  nothing is permanent so to speak...even u r not permanent...so why do u expect a permanent rejection or permanent acceptance...a permanent love....love which never fails...accept ur helplessness about the non permanent nature of things...this is the way it is...and when u see this u will never feel rejected and hence wont get hurt...life keeps moving...love comes love goes...people come people go, be it friends or enemies.... opinions get formed they get destroyed...emotions keep changing...u have no control over anything...u have nothing to do with them...and someday if u realize this u will have an orbital jump where transcending happens...where "mukti " happens...where "liberation " happens.

And please remember getting hurt is a sign of ego...of association with mind...of rigidity......of playing high and mighty...of being holier than thou...and all this never brings any creativity or happiness...still if u enjoy getting hurt  "feel free in doing so" or else "grow up....grow in".

A few things about people who get hurt easily or are always prepared to get hurt......

1. People have inner vacuum and miseries and it's easy to blame others for that and the easiest way to do is by getting hurt and blaming others...this way or that way they keep getting hurt...it's not possible to satisfy them...ask urself, are u one of them, if yes....now u can drop such habits.

2. A person who has this idea that some day some body is bound to come in life and fulfill all that one asked for...that somewhere there is somebody who is bound to make you totally happy...well one who has even a slightest undercurrent of such thoughts is bound to get hurt again and again...complete fulfillment from "the other" is not possible in the game of life...u drop such ideas and u will never be hurt.

3.A person who is self centered is bound to be hurt time and again...a person who wants to be the center of everything around in life is going to be an easy prey to pain and misery...be selfish and not self centered...u r not the center of anything 

lastly
Once somebody asked me "why was it necessary for god to create pain and hurt"...and i said it's because ultimately god is going to hurt u....the existence is going to hurt u in the form of death...ur death or death of somebody who is a part of u...god is preparing u for the ultimate hurt bcos one day all ur agendas...ur possessions ...ur thoughts ...ur acheviments...ur ideas ...ur failures ...ur body...ur desires  etc etc are going to be taken away from u....no matter how serious u act... the existence is boosting your  final hurt immunity  by giving u little doses of pain and hurt time and again....so that u become aware and fall into a state of surrender and let go.

All the best
       
                                                   Prem Kamal

PEACE...SHANTI...WHY IS IT ALLUDING ME ?

"Shanti nahi milti...milaygy bhi nahi...dhondhnay sey kissi ko bhi nahi milti...u r not able to find peace...u won't find it...nodbody has ever found it by searching for it"...searching for shanti/peace is the wrong approach.

And why is it the wrong approach...
"Simply because it is not a product that u can go and buy...it is not a thing which is placed at a particular spot and once u reach there u will get it...."

I come across people who say they are searching for peace and they are wandering and they have traveled here and there and more here and there...and they are still searching...from mountains to caves, to fields ,to all that their mind gets attracted to...they are mere tourists just glamourising their  travel travails as search for something higher and deeper...and i am not saying that traveling or wandering is wrong...it's ur call...i m simply saying...it won't work because shanti or peace is not in "then and there...it is in now and here"...get this loud and clear "it's now and here"

So if it is "in now and here" then why is it eluding everybody?
 
It is eluding everybody bcos nobody is present in "now and here"...everybody is busy chasing the dreams,the mirage of the future, or what is to be done next, and how to do it  and all this is  endless...like the dreaded black hole...bottomless...

And if one is not in future one is in past...remembering it, cribbing about it, glorifying it or repenting it...have you not seen people saying "oh those were the best days"...)))....

"those days"...not that they were the best....when one was there in time one was still trying to sort and streamline the various aspects of ones life...behaving exactly the way one is behaving now....one was not present there at that point in time.

People are always escaping from this moment...they will travel...they will do meditation camps...they will go to satsangs...all kinds of therapies and groups and healings...flying across continents...from Europe to Delhi to Pune to Himachal to Khajuraho to Nepal to Istanbul to everywhere...traveling everywhere but not staying "in here...in this moment...neither a second forward nor backward...just this moment".

Just watch urself, r u present in this moment...no...just 2 seconds and ur mind will pull ur attention to here there and everywhere...to this thought, that though or any thought...and these thoughts will tell u to do millions of things...do this and that, go here and there...call him or her or someone...watch a movie or whatever...there is unrelenting bombardment of ideas and suggestions by ur mind...u r just a slave to ur thoughts and u r not present in "now and here"...so no peace and no shanti.

The other day i was sitting with somebody in the best condominium of the town...the topmost floor...with beautiful view...and the elderly gentlemen i was sitting with was just telling how bad things are...how everything is just getting worse, from economy to health to relationships to society to human psyche...n on n on...and he was  lost in saying such things for almost an hour when suddenly i stopped him...i said "pls wait, just wait...i m sitting here with u for last 2 hrs enjoying the view and the beautiful appartment and the of tea and everything around and u r just lost in criticizing things...i can assure u...there is nothing wrong anywhere...atleast there hasn't been anything wrong in last 2 hrs...things are just fine...infact just perfect...ask me...and we r sitting at the same place"...the guy was speechless.

And i said "sir...DROP THESE IDEAS...the world has always been like that...the world will always be like that...ppl come and ppl go....the world is neither good or bad....ppl kill ppl get killed...ppl cheat and ppl become honest...ppl get angry and then ppl become silent...sun comes and goes...so does everything and it will remain so...but it's not about ppl...it's not about anybody else but u...it is what u r doing to urself that matters and what u do to urself u end up doing to others...and the process continues with everybody...and it seems as if there is nothing right here...its just bad bad bad...no it's not...its not good nor is it bad...its a flux...good becoming bad and the other way round...u dont worry abt how everybody or the world is...at least u stick to urself...take care of urself...find ur happiness...bcos u have the right to ur life and actions only"...still...it's ur choice...but let me assure u world has always been like this and it will always be like this...


Things are neither right nor wrong ...they r the way they r...u make ur choice...dont crib...sun is shinning, somebody is blabbering and complaining about the heat...how hot it is....the other person just moves to the shade without saying a single word...u decide what u want...and every moment of ur life will tell about the choice u r making...abt what u r doing to urself...abt what u r doing with ur life...what's goin inside ur head is telling what u r into...the tiredness in ur eyes is reflecting the weight u r carrying in ur head...ur walk tells as to how much u r lost and how much u r present...make no mistake, "every moment is screaming loud and clear about what u have been doing to urself in ur life"....good or bad..right or wrong...it's ur life...better be honest to urself...every word that u speak or every thought that takes away ur attention is an intense indication of ur understanding and clarity about things...dont blame others, thats the easy way out and prefered by almost everybody

So what to do ..this is always the question...)))...

Its simple,don't search for "peace and shanti"...get rid of "ashanti or restlessness"...get rid of the chaos...stop creating more of it...identify the points as to how u create uneasiness in life, THE ARGUMENTS, THE CONFLICTS and be aware of those moments. And when they come again...don't fall for them...don't fall in the same ditch...stop there...just stop being ashant and restless...just drop ur crazy ideas AND INTELLIGENCE THAT HAS MADE U REACH THIS POINT OF POINTLESSNESS...

AND IF U CAN'T STOP DROPPING THINGS WHICH BRING CONFLICTS IN UR LIFE , "KEEP SUFFERING...U DESERVE IT".
Don't worry about doing..."just be...just be aware of the moments when u are about to fall in uneasiness and stop"...

The day ur restlessness and uneasiness goes away, whatever that shall be left is "PEACE  AND SHANTI".

HAVE THE GUTS TO STAY IN THIS MOMENT...
THIS IS THE ONLY DIFFICULT THING IN THIS WORLD...THE ONLY...REST IS ALL VERY EASY

IN THIS MOMENT RESTLESSNESS, ANXIETY, BUTTERFLIES INSIDE, ASHANTI IS NOT POSSIBLE...TRY IT...U WILL BE SURPRISED...U WILL BE SURPRISED HOW SIMPLE IT IS...BUT WE DON'T LIKE SIMPLE THINGS...DO U...))).....

All the best

                                                     Prem Kamal

Positive thinking...is it any good...does it help?

MY DEAR WHO TOLD U THAT BEING POSITIVE OR POSITIVE THINKING IS GOOD AND GOING TO HELP U IN ANY WAY...FROM WHERE DID U GET THIS IDEA....))).

PLEASE  UNDERSTAND THE 3 DIMENSIONS OF THOUGHT PROCESS.

When u r looking only "at the rose" with all its grandeur of fragrance and beauty, it  is  being positive...it's one extreme...

When u r looking only "at the thorns" engulfing the rose, it is negative thinking...it's another extreme...

And when u r  looking "totally at the whole"...the  plant, with leaves,thorns and flower and the flower bed and the garden...it  is being pragmatic, being realistic...the "MADHYA MARG...THE RIGHT WAY"...what Buddha said.

NOW  WHO NEEDS POSITIVE THINKING.
Only a person who has negative thinking is attracted to positive thinking...
A person who has no negative thinking will not think of positive thinking...
Only a person who is not well thinks of medicine...isn't it. 

So to become a positive thinker u have to be a negative thinker first...or else who cares about positive thoughts...there is no need.
The issue is the negativity...and what u r trying to do is basically replace negative with positive...and there lies the whole problem of understanding.

The solution is not in bringing the positivity but getting rid of negativity...become bereft of negativity and u won't need any positivity.

NOW, WHY DOES ONE HAVE NEGATIVE THINKING...
HOW DOES THE NEGATIVITY BEGINS...
FROM WHERE DOES IT ENTER.

YOU WILL BE SURPRISED TO KNOW THAT All YOUR NEGATIVE THINKING IS BECAUSE OF THE POSITIVE THOUGHTS THAT U STARTED WITH.
Please look in your life and see how the trap gets formed.
Positive thinking is always future oriented...pertaining to what u expect out of ur actions...and all your action is motivated by goals.
These  goals are part of ur positive thinking and aspirations. You set your standards or goals or objectives and the time frame and the whole road map as to how to reach them.
There is a zest when u plan all this...one is in a positive bent of mind, full of enthusiasm , energy.
 
Now when u plan it's only ur mind that works...but when u act or execute there is ur body and so many other factors which are involved... parameters which r not in ur hands, which ur mind doesn't know about at the time of planing .

The whole approach of planning is grossly optimistic rather than realistic.
It is based on what u desire and expect rather than what u may or may not get.

And when u start working or moving towards ur goal u realize u are failing so many times...
u realize there are so many compromises involved...so many struggles, so many bad decisions, so many pitfalls, so much tiredness...so much fight, and on and on.

Gradually negativity comes...the whole momentum of energy takes u turn bcos life is not what u had imagined while being in the optimistic frame of mind...there r  obstacles...the outcome is generally not what u had anticipated...and the same positive attitude turns negative.

That is why this world is full of negativity despite all the talk and lectures on how to do this and that, how to be positive...how to be happy....and all the "how to manuals..."
The more the talk of being positive shows the prevailing abundance of negativity...the more the talk of positive thoughts indicates the presence of negative thinking in the life.

These manuals, guiding lines and 3 rules of happiness and 7 rules of letting go and 10 rules to stay relaxed and 12 rules for this and that  and bla bla are just bogus and time pass...

Just look at ppl who throw such set of rules...they themselves have no idea of what they are proposing...these rules are propagated by those who have no idea of realism, who don't have the capacity to see things as they are.

IF U R NEGATIVE...PLEASE DON'T TRY TO BE POSITIVE...
IF U R NEGATIVE...BE NON NEGATIVE...DON'T TRY TO BE POSITIVE...
STAY NON NEGATIVE AND NON POSITIVE...THAT'S THE KEY

OR ELSE U WILL BE TRAPPED IN THE VICIOUS CIRCLE OF NEGATIVE BECOMING POSITIVE AND POSITIVE BECOMING NEGATIVE AND U WILL GO CRAZY.
 
There is a huge difference between "being non negative and being positive."

NON NEGATIVE  MEANS...U R REALISTIC.
POSITIVE MEANS...U R DREAMING...being idealistic , being a dreamer...future oriented...and when dream gets shattered in the unknown dimensions of future...negativity descends...and this is bringing all the sadness, lifelessness, struggle and tiredness in the peoples lives.


Why do people have problems in their married life...
bcos when they started off they were just totally positive...all goody goody...but life is not always goody goody...it has it's own agenda...and then when they realize this, they become full of negativity and that's why marriage is regretted most of the times...ppl are always cribbing.

Why are people unhappy in their work life or careers...
simply bcos earlier they were all so overtly positive...high hopes...anticipating a shiny future blinding their eyes...nobody thinks of the daily office struggles or the politics involved or the hassles of doing buisness or the worker management or the hectic schedules or the useless traveling in so much pollution and traffic...that's why people look so sad at work...they never visualized all this initially...even ppl at high posts are always wrecked and anxious...the reason is the same...positive thinking in the begining is turning around.

Why do relations fail...
the story remains the same...ppl are so very positive when it begins...and then...the pendulum of energy shifts towards negativity when they see that things are not what they had imagined.

Why does every child  wants  to grow up fast but becomes unhappy once he grows young and  subsequently old ?
It's just bcos of positive thinking...high hopes...high aspirations he had as a child...every thought is just full of enthusiasm but as they grow up...they realize the futility of things...they realize how they had exaggerated the positive dimension of their thought process...the illusions they created.

Observe how the insurance companies and real estate companies promote their business...they hit the positive chamber of ur mind to sell their products...they always flash a pic of a beautiful house with a nice garden and a lovely woman holding her cute  little child on the swing with husband smiling besides that woman in the "oh so perfect weather with right amount of sun and breeze"...they are hitting ur positive thought process...all sugary and sweet.

In real life it is not so...a mother  hardly looks the woman projected in the picture, she is constantly working n tired in real life...and small children are generally swung in the garden by the maids most of the times...and husbands are never to be found in such places...and the perfect weather of the picture hardly exists.

Have u seen why so many ppl are not able to lose weight despite all the guidance, help and efforts...it's simply bcos they start out with lot of positivity...and gradually when things don't happen the way they thought...they get dejected and turn negative...all the gyming, the atkins diets and naturopathys fail...the enthusiasm fades away...they give up mid way...positive energy turns negative...and then after few months again this energy again turns positive...ppl again start running to lose weight...and again the same cycle happens.

Same thing happens with people who want to quit smoking or drinking or whatever...most of the times they fail...

Whole life goes away and one is left moving in the same circle.

So please understand how nature works rather than falling in the trap of these glorious sets of idealistic eutopian advices, manuals and rules of positivity.

People say "don't expect"...and they also say "be positive"...now what they are not able to see is that "ALL UR EXPECTATIONS ARE DISGUISED IN THE FORM OF POSITIVE THOUGHTS AND ALL UR EXPECTATIONS WILL BRING PAIN".....BEWARE.

Osho used to say "sukh kee aad mein hee dukh aata hai......all ur pain comes in the cover of pleasure" ....

Don't be negative...Don't be positive...just be realistic and see things as they are and act as per the situation rather than the imagination or idealism in ur head.

Things are "the way they are"....neither negative nor positive...

AND FEEL FREE TO DISAGREE WITH WHAT I AM SAYING .

Good Luck

                                                             Prem Kamal
  

Boredom in a settled relationship....

What else do you expect ?

Anything which you start taking for granted will begin to infest boredom. If you are an actor and u feel u really know the depth of acting, that u have reached the zenith...... the very moment you will begin to lose interest  and your downfall will start and that goes for everything in this world which u start taking for granted.

About human relationship , this is one point that couples don't understand and are not aware off.

Love always starts with attraction, that's the first step.....first not the last......that attraction needs be kept IN SOME FORM for love to grow...........

One is attracted to something that one doesn't have or the quality that one appreciates. So the catch is how to keep this attraction alive and kicking........not only that, how to increase the intensity of it with every fall of sand granule in the hour glass..........

Women are attracted by what they hear.......and Men are generally attracted by what they see.

If a man has the "gift of gab".....he is always going to be Mr. Charming, he is always going to be very magnetic for women.....bcos women want to be entertained....they want to be won over by the verbal expressions of the man to begin with...they want to laugh.....they generally go by what they hear......

For a man, generally  he is attracted by how women appears, how she looks, that's how it generally starts and that is the reason why women are so bothered and particular about their looks.They know that men are attracted by what they see and with attraction one feels wanted, needed ......and that's a very basic human desire "to be needed"..........

Now everything has a limit.....for how long can one be charming ...for how long can one be coming up with new talk and ideas that  binds somebody interest and attention when u r together most of the times......for how long  can a man come up with something humorous and funny....it's not possible.

And similarly for how long can a woman maintain her attractiveness.....the physical dimensions or appearance off the body cannot be maintained or perfected all the time by the very design and law of nature. For how long can one keep the "oh so perfect appearance"  to keep the attraction alive........

When courtship happens , one meets for lesser time........but once u start being together most of the times, it's not possible to be on the edge of maintaining your appearance all the time.

So with time, the mystery in the other or these parameters of initial attraction tend to fade. 

The normal rigmarole of life catches up.....thick and fast.....not only catches up, it piles up.....it starts over weighing these qualities which a man and woman appreciated in the days  of their courtship.....the relationship once established creates a feeling of "taken for granted"....


And  hence the ship of romance starts sinking, the aura of being in love starts fading away fast. If couples don't have children , there is a big possibility that they will lose interest in each other with time....it's not always like that but the chances become very high.

There are 2 fundamental points that matter ... to be always in a state of love and not look bored....

First, by reinventing urself all the time. Words and Appearance are just on the periphery....there is more in a man than his words and there is a lot more in a woman than her appearance. One has to start moving to higher qualities for this love and attraction to become more intense. And this can happen only when one is creative , when one is learning and moving into something new .... something fresh.....this art of being creative and channelizing your energy positively will reflect in your relationships as well. It will keep the other person interested in you bcos with opening up of new dimensions in life for yourself ....u r in a way opening the same for your partner also.....with ur growth ...the other also has a chance to grow and explore more.If one doesn't have this knack........the boredom is bound to creep in.

Don't take anything for granted in any relationship....DON'T STOP GROWING....don't stop creating "new you" all the time......or the whole relationship will start wilting....and when the intensity begins to fade after the mystery of unknown in the other is gone, people start blaming their partner......and that's not sensible. As far as my understanding goes.......any relationship will fail when u stop learning, when one gets trapped in the SET PATTERNS of life rather than learning something new.........as long as your wheel of creativity is moving , it will keep on churning fresh energy of love.....it will keep your eyes fresh and clean and sparkling....just go on dropping past and keep on enhancing your creativity and it goes for both  ...men and women.

Second and very important............giving each other some space........it's like pruning the plants.....it brings new space...new air......new directions to grow in...it helps in blossoming.....

If one starts holding on to the other all the time, it will kill the relationship , it will bring retaliation and will generate a feeling to escape......and it will suffocate the partner.......so this is very essential as the first parameter depends on the second one.One can learn and explore something new only when one gets the freedom of space....freedom of space without any fear.............

But generally in life both these things are missing. People take each other for granted and people take themselves for granted and that makes that tingling  feel of love go stale......and life without this feeling of love...without this feeling of newness ...without this feeling of freshness....becomes meaning less....juice less........

Don't take life for granted, don't take a human being for granted , don't take your body for granted.......and it goes for everything........just keep on moving into the new....into being creative......creativity always blesses with a feeling of goodliness and godliness........and never let anybody encroach your time and  space totally.......that would be claustrophobic .......

)))))))...........

                                                       Prem Kamal

  

MEDITATION.....what is it ?

To begin with.....
Meditation is the dialysis for the inner.
Meditation is the process of De-poisoning the mind and then creating a distance from it.
It is the remedy for all mental garbage that is choking up human mind.
It the process of gradual liberation from anger, hatred, frustration, guilt, fear ....bla bla bla

And finally, the riddance from  mother of all these mental diseases... "THE EGO" and " the dualities....the confusions....the mental flux...."

Meditation is the process which may bring "FINAL clarity....absolute clarity without any ifs and buts, only if one is willing to experience the "art of dying"....(not physical death but "the ego"......)

Now, when i say "to begin with"...it means , for a normal person or for the beginner...................
For a person who is new to meditation it is just a way to relax, to unwind , to de-stress.......but that is just the beginning
Somehow  99.99% of the people who meditate are stuck only at the beginning.They meditate for years and years but still remain at the same level......just repeating the "a...b....c...........".......just repeating the basic techniques..........

For example.........you look at people  who have been meditating for years....they are still into repetition of same as to what they started out with years ago.
You go to meditation camps and u will find camp leaders and aged seekers still stuck with kundalini , zibberish etc....
These techniques are just the basics.......they will de-stress you......these techniques will help you relax......but what after that.You will again get tensed, choked up once u come to normal life and again you will go to some meditation camp and do the same things and again feel light.....and then again, once out of the meditation center  you will fall into the same trap of getting messed up. Same set of emotional parameters and dimensions will engulf you again and you will feel tensed and down.So it becomes a circular pattern of tension and relaxation.........

Am i saying "don't do it".....
No, i am saying that it is just the beginning and a beginning has to be made....but don't get stuck with the basics....


The real meditation begins where these techniques end...where the silence starts...And silence has no techniques.....
The real meditation will not only remove the stress but it will take you to the level where you will never be stressed or tensed or dejected again.
The real meditation will free you from "the meditation techniques" itself
It will remove the very roots from where these diseases spread.

The 75%  part of the meditation techniques like kundalini ,chakras,tratak and all  helps in reducing the symptoms rather than the cause itself....it is just like cutting the leaves......
The leaves of anger, pain, jealousy etc ect  will fall down for some time but as soon as u r back to your normal daily life, they will grow again.
That is why u will find people all over who have not changed in the real sense despite meditating for decades.....they have just been cutting the leaves....they never had the guts to reach the very roots and cut the problem from there.The real surgery begins with "silence"........Osho said many times "be silent and know"......that is the key.


WHY MEDITATION TECHNIQUES.........
For humans  its not so easy to be quiet...forget about being silent....and hence masters device these techniques as a way to reach the silence a bit easily and quickly.
So meditation techniques are required to reach a stage of being quiet and then being silent ........that's it.

And once you are settled in silence, the real meditation begins....the game changes.....the meditation starts from silence.............................

ABOUT THE RIGHT WAY .............

Well as a seeker you have to be aware as to where u are getting stuck.....
If you are just stuck in the repetition of the physical jugglery involved in any meditation technique OR JUST GETTING STUCK IN WORDS AND DISCOURSES, begin to question your understanding.Begin to question as to what you are doing and if it is actually leading you anywhere except temporary relaxation..........

It is so strange that  people who know...who have known ...who have experienced the truth, keep on telling that these words are useless, that these techniques are just a beginning....that they  won't take you far....that the words are basically of mind...that don't repeat these words....the words which are not your experience.....but still almost everybody is doing the same.They go on repeating the words of osho or other masters without any break,such is their obsession , their mind cannot rest without it .....it almost becomes a source of time pass and entertainment.The mind keeps lurking for them...more and more......and one gets stuck in those words thinking that they know.

Knowing those words and having information about those words are two different things. Information doesn't means transformation.I have seen people who listen to discourses at night if they are not able to sleep.........they have just fallen in love with a trap despite warning from the master.....

So don't repeat words like love, silence and this and that till the point you are liberated...It trivializes the whole affair of meditation.....

People who got liberated spoke of these words only after they had experienced truth...after they had become truth....if u speak before that, they won't carry any weight...it will unnecessarily add to your ego and others will clearly feel and see the shallowness of it, the foolishness of it...so why to fool yourself when master himself warned you of that....

Once you know something , once you understand something...you will know it yourself and others will feel it too when u speak...the words will carry some weight and energy which will touch peoples hearts......

BEWARE THAT YOU DON'T FALL IN THAT TRAP.
THE FIRST LESSON I LEARNT FROM OSHO WAS WHEN HE SAID "DONT EVER SAY ANYTHING WHICH IS NOT YOUR EXPERIENCE OR UNDERSTANDING..........BEWARE OF REPEATING MY WORDS".........
So that is the first thing to remember as a seeker.......

Secondly,
keep on doing techniques till you get tired but don't get attached to any experiences that u go through......don't hold them dear to your heart though it's going to be very tempting.......for all experiences are of the body and you are not the body...

Thirdly,
Gradually learn to meditate alone.....at times with people and at times alone.Down the line that is going to be very important.Meditating in group is very easy and convenient...but that's not enough.Ultimately you are searching to face yourself and if you don't develop the guts to meditate alone.......you won't reach what you are unknowingly looking for.It's very easy to be in a group and dance and shout and laugh and do humming......and then be in silence.......but that's not enough.So don't chain yourself to groups if possible.

And lastly,
If you do these techniques honestly and with totality, a time will come when u will be able to take direct jump to silence.....at that point of time....try to find somebody who can handle the silence.
Once you have a taste of settling in silence ...you will not be able to handle it....it's very delicate,very soft,very fragile...it's a situation where one is empty of all the garbage but the new,the essential,the valuable has still not come......it's just on the verge of flowing in......you will need the right person to take you through it ...to help you settle in it and then to help you transcend it......and its almost impossible to find a person who can do that ......SO BE AWARE OF THIS AS WELL....

All the best......


                                                       Prem Kamal

Desires...is it possible to live without them?

No'
it's not possible live without desires  and Buddha never said or meant that when he said what he said......
His words have been misinterpreted by buddhoos (ignorant)....the old time camp leaders...hahaha.......like the modern times camp leaders are busy giving a different interpretations to Osho's words....

It's not possible to live without desires because desires are not in ur hands........
They just come from beyond, the unknown........that is why it is called "prabhu ichcha".....the god's will or god's desire......it is like that and you can see it for yourself...you cannot think about a desire....its always new and fresh and from the unknown ...while about lust one is always thinking ,it's just impossible to withdraw your energies from lust and that is why your mind is continuously thinking without any break...that's why your thoughts never leave you....because you are continuously possessed by something or the other.Just observe yourself in silence and you will see a pattern of thoughts leading exactly to your point of lust...to the thing you want to control or possess...and it can be anything...one may be possessed by money or sex or children or career or whatever......lust enslaves you.....desire turns you into an artist, lust creates a monster out of you......

When you begin to settle down inside.........and the witness or watching grows, this is the first thing u will realize........."the desire comes on its own.....from nowhere or from somewhere or from anywhere."

What Buddha talked about was "vaasna" and not "ichcha"...
He talked about "lust" and not "desire" when he said those words.

Now  the funny thing is that "ichcha" or "desire" turns into lust all the times...
"lust " never comes directly"....its the desire which gets perverted into lust if one is not aware..

And please understand that "lust " is not a sexual word...or vaasna is not necessarily sexual...........

"Ichcha  or desire" is something which is attracting your energies..........
The desire gives direction to your life energies ...that's how life happens and continues...........
But when the innocence of desire gets clouded by possessiveness it turns into "lust or vaasna".....vaasna or lust means u are possessed by that...by that something...by that desire....now u r residing in that desire.....now u have become so close to that desire or obsessed by it that u are in it..."vaasna means bas-na...means to reside..." ..now you are blinded by it.

Don't you see in your daily life as to how somebody threw acid on some girl or how jilted lover killed the woman he desired or loved.....it's happening all the time......what's the reason....the reason is simple...the desire to get associated with somebody turns into the lust to possess and when that possession is met by resistance the ego gets hurt....the rejection wounds the false pride...and lovers end up becoming killers....so a simple desire turns into  a lust and into a suffering . 

Krishna said " don't worry about the end result...phal kee chinta mat kar..."...that's exactly what Buddha meant....don't be obsessed by your desire or else it will become lust and that is going to be the root cause of all pain and agony.

Ashtavakra said "that your karma is not your karma....." and that is exactly what he meant when he said so..........that all your karma begins with a desire and the desire comes from some source , so its not your karma, don't be associated with that, just flow with your karma with honesty, that's it.....and when u r not associated with your karma you won't be associated with the end result...and when you are not associated with the end result you will never lust for anything.

Osho used to say "u r not the doer.....tum karta nahi ho.......".........he also meant the same as Ashtavakra , Krishna, Buddha and everybody who has ever experienced the truth....so when u r not the doer where is the question of "lust or vaasna"....and since there is no lust or vaasna...there is no success and there is no failure...and when there is no success and no failure... where is the ego....it doesn't get formed....and no ego means no pain...no suffering.....simple......

So don't be afraid of desires....but don't be possessed by them.......don't try to possess anything u desire....don't try to rule it or get it by this way or that way, by tact or act.......work towards it,make it into creativity and not into some target that needs to be reached....a goal to be achieved , don't do that or else you will never be at ease...........

Desire is absolutely wonderful, don't try to kill it just because some unintelligent parrot has said that........see and witness in your own life.....see as to how when a desire comes, it breathes a life into you...it enhances your creativity and all creativity ultimately blossoms into love.........not love towards somebody but the quality of "love" with no subject or object........ 


                                                  Prem Kamal

Honesty........should one be truthful and honest all the time.......

Honesty is "the most important".....and i am not talking about your definition of being honest.

The definition of your honesty is more moralistic than being existentially correct....and that is why you yourself are confused.

What do you understand about being honest....and honest to whom.
Are you  talking about speaking truth all the time...or are you talking about being honest towards your husband or spouse or your boyfriend/girlfriend.....
Are you talking about being honest while paying your taxes correctly or are you talking about telling truth to your children all the time........

What are the dimensions and paremetres of honesty that you  carry in your mind.
Is it about being honest to your country or your friends or to your parents or towards your employer ......or being honest towards your  workers.

Is it about being honest when you see that it is going to kill you or somebody.......

If you get entangled in these frivolous ideas, u will always be confused....no clarity.

And if you move without clarity you will be divided and gradually schizophrenic......you will have multiple standards in your life and you will always be confused as to what is right and what is wrong......you will begin to manipulate things and situations most of the times.......

Please observe a little fact about life.........you came first into this world and then others came into your life...and then gradually associations happened and then gradually conflict of ideas and morals and thinking patterns......isn't it...

So first things first..... you came first and you should be important to yourself and hence you should be honest to yourself.....that is the first ground rule as far as my understanding and experience is concerned.

"Be honest to yourself " and rest all will fall in place.....everything....and if you are not honest to yourself then no matter how much you try to make others happy, you will always be in trouble and others will always be in trouble bcos of you.

You will be compromising in life bcos of others and in return you will make them compromise for you....and in the end everybody ends up blaming everybody else for their miseries.

And this could still be confusing as to what "being honest to yourself means"

Being honest to yourself means that "happiness is always right and don't do anything that makes you unhappy , that creates hesitation in you , don't do anything that doesn't go with your nature".

Most of the times we are in a situation where we are doing things because of people around us.....where we feel that we should do or not do something because it will make somebody important in our life unhappy...we feel almost compelled to do it rather than our hearty wish.....

No, be honest to yourself and let others not decide for you , don't do anything because somebody will be upset if you don't do so ......or else you will always be confused.....what to do,what not to do........

There are relations every where and there are complicated situations because of them .....sometimes your spouse would want something and your parent may want something else.....sometimes one of your child may want something and the other child may want exactly opposite of that.....and sometimes you yourself would want to do so many things which others will not want....it's going to be one hell of a compromise to your nature if you are always playing to the gallery ....

And please understand that you are not going to be always getting favourable outcome bcos of your instincts.....but you will never blame anybody else for your miseries and failures if you are honest to yourself in listening to your heart .

Here, generally we are blaming others for all the  problems in our lives.

I have seen elderly cribbing about how they wasted their lives for their children and now children are no where to be found , they are far and away and sometimes not even interested in them.

I have seen housewives cribbing about how they are in a fix and tied up bcos of their husband and children ...and i have seen husbands just wanting to run away from their homes  because they are living a life that they don't want .......

Why so much mental chaos all around.........the reason is simple......most of the people are acting against their basic nature,they fall in a trap and they end up doing things they don't want to do.....they are compromising....and they do it because they are afraid that others might get hurt.

So be very clear...if you are not honest to yourself ...you will never be able to be honest with others....it's not possible....at the most you will be diplomatically correct....BE AWARE THAT YOU ARE NOT BORN TO ACT TO OTHERS WISHES....YOU ARE HERE TO LIVE YOUR DREAMS AND DESTINY.....

Honesty  to yourself will set you free......free from others and gradually free from your mind and conflicts..........

Honesty is not about being truthful all the time.....it's about being true to yourself, to have the capacity to listen to your heart rather than the calculations of your mind......

AND PLEASE ALSO UNDERSTAND  THAT SPEAKING OUT THE TRUTH KNOWING THAT IT MAY KILL SOMEBODY, IS NOT A SENSIBLE THING.....it's not about your capacity to tell the truth that matters most of the times...it's the capacity of the other person to listen to it and digest it that's relevant ....so be prudent by being realistic rather than moralistic.....

"Honesty to yourself....don't delay it.....life is too short to be little"........
It's difficult in the beginning but its worthwhile...perhaps the only thing that is worth your while...."honesty.....to yourself".....it will save you from becoming a hypocrite... from feeling something else and doing something else....

Don't compromise, don't be blackmailed , don't be enslaved........if you want to be at peace.....otherwise you can very well play the game that everybody is playing with great unease.......your life, do whatever.......

                                                             Prem Kamal

EGO.........HOW IT GROWS........

Coming to the second part of your question  as to 
"How ego is formed and the way it grows.First please understand that to live in this world you have to have an identity and this identity is just a reference , a part of system to make things convenient.

Now if you become identified with this identity it becomes ego.All kinds of identifications lead to ego formation.Now this may sound a bit complicated so let me take your example.

Now assuming that your name is "X or jack" and I  tell you that there is no jack its just a name ,you will agree immediately.Your name is just a name.....nothing more...it can be changed anytime, you are not the name.So its obvious that a name is just a name.
Now assuming your neighbor has a pet....a puppy ....and he starts calling  that puppy  "jack"......day in and day out all the time moving with his puppy he addresses him as "jack"...........will you not be effected.?

Deep inside you will be terribly affected, upset and angry despite knowing that it is just a name.You will not be liking it at all......and this name has now become a part of your ego...because though your mind says you are not jack and it's just a name...still you are identified with it and feeling miserable....and that's exactly how this ego grows and multiplies , by our identifications with  name...surname...caste....nationality...sexuality....and bla bla though we go on telling ourselves that all this is useless.

When listening to the master or the guru you will nod your head in agreement that all this is futile but as soon as you move out in your daily life ....you will be identified with these terms and will go on fighting for them....and the misery perpetuates. Osho used to give his sannyasins a new name....it was just a psychological device to break one's identification with the old...all that one carries in the head....but there also people got emotional and identified with their names.
In fact so many times they go to depths to find the meaning of their new names, analyzing why they got this name and then they feel so attached to it.............

And they stay where they are...no progress spiritually...old habits die hard....they identify themselves with new names.....they fail their master..... what to do,that's how it happens.,,.....
They become emotional about their beads and malas and names and experiences of sannyas and bla bla.....something that was meant to be fun becomes ego in a subtle way.

Now on one hand this identification of yourself makes this ego..............another aspect of life that perpetuates the ego is the idea that you are a "doer"..........that you are doing whatever is HAPPENING.

Now "life is movement..." and there is action every moment.
And every action will lead to two kinds of results............
One ,something that you wanted and hoped for....and you are successful in getting that.....

Or second kind of result which is opposite to your hopes and expectations....where you feel as if you have failed.
Now in  both the cases if you associate yourself as a "doer"... ego will be formed.

First ,assuming that you were successful in what you wanted to do.........you will feel elevated,you will feel special, great, your chest will swell with pride or inside you will feel  "o, i am definitely intelligent"..........
And then  density of all these expressions gets multiplied when you get appreciated by your friends and family and loved ones......this ego multiplies.....you start creating certain impressions about yourself in the mind....you feel special........
Pride and all its cousins come in,sometimes very subtly sometimes very visible.

In the second case when you fail..........you will feel bad,a failure,kinda lost out, not good enough, a bit guilty, inferior, dejected......and so on and so forth.
Now you will begin to identify yourself with these psychological expressions

Again the ego is formed....again you got associated.............

So this way or that way ego keeps on multiplying...sometimes in a positive way and sometimes the opposite.

Now this is a strange situation.............whatever you do.........you are going to be in trouble and this trouble will keep on multiplying...."THE EGO KEEPS GROWING"....

So what to do.......simple........"Surrender".......don't get identified with the action and the result , see and understand that  the action  happened that way......and the result also came that way.
You just  did your karma.........nothing else.

That was the essence of "Gita" when krishna said to Arjun...that you do your job without getting associated with it.
Life has brought you a situation, do whatever happens spontaneously ,do according to your nature and then just get out of the way.
There are no rights and no wrongs,there is no good and no bad .......if you keep yourself out of the picture.
You just become  a witness.....not associated ........that's what Osho was trying to tell all the time......

But this needs guts to apply......this needs absolute surrender to the existence........try it and you will know.

In other words its called "LET GO".....and it needs a big heart and courage to "LET GO"......these are not just mere words.....you will be transformed immediately the moment you start applying this.

There is a Sufi saying .........
"Mera mujh mein kuch bhi nahin.......
 Tera sab tujhko arpan......."  ,which means
"There is nothing in you which is yours...
So instead of becoming a "Doer"....become a "Witness"....let it happen...........

You cannot to anything,it's just a wrong idea..........things just happen.

You are born in this body...it just happened..........
Your body took particular dimensions....it just happened.....you are not to be crdited or discredited for that..........
You are born in a certain country...it just happened....
You fell in love with a particular person....just happened......
You have children who look this way or that way.......that too is not in your control..........it just happened......
You invested money and it grew.....that too just happened.....and  if it went down the drain and you failed ,that too just happened.............

Don't become a "Doer"...if you want your ego to melt away...do everything totally and that's it....."Jo hua so hua....jo hoga so hoga......whatever has happened has happened...whatever  that will happen.....will happen.....que sera sera......."

Everything is just happening.....you can't see it because you are not aware....you are not present.......you are lost in your ego...in your ideas....in the future and in the past....in your guilts and in your hopes.....IN YOUR CONFLICTS...IN YOUR MIND...and because of that you are constantly in fear and anxiety..............

And that's how one misses out in life.....that's how one miss out the Master....that's how one miss out on the real flavour of Gita, of Dhammpada  and of every other scripture which was spoken by people who have known.

During the life one keeps struggling ...this way or that way and in the end everything fails.....one dies in misery...that's why people are generally  afraid of old age...that's why people are afraid of death....it looks ugly.....because the dying person just reflects fear, helplessness ...empty...nothing else.....you look in the lives of all great achievers  or of the normal mortal so to speak, at the time  of their death they were just sad......because they missed out something...the real thing....they were lost in the ego....their achievements and failures...and in the end they realized there is nothing to take with them...

Do i have any problem with it.....no....none whatsoever....you asked ,i gave you my understanding and experience....you may inflate your ego, you may work towards melting it away...your life ...your wish....

All the best ..... 

                                            Prem Kamal   

EGO .......HOW TO DROP IT...

Well there is only and only 1 step to drop ego............no other.............."find EGO".

It seems as if you know what ego is.
Ask yourself  what is this ego that you want to drop ,where is it...........
How are you holding it that you can drop it..........
And why did you create this ego in the first place if you are wanting to drop it.

The problem with human mind is that it has stored words but existentially it doesn't know the meaning of them.

A few years back ,probably just the early days when i got in to meditation so to speak,i met this guy. 

He had come over to my house and was just talking non stop and then he said " kamal, i have lived my life....I have attained everything that was to be attained spiritualy and just that this "I" needs to get dropped.................". 

Though I was in a mess myself that point of time but still  could see it so clearly how this guy was fooling himself.
He said everything has happened except this "I" getting dropped.  Now this guy had no idea as to what he was saying but he made it sound highly spiritual.

How can you drop "I" when you don't know what it is..................
Similarly how can you drop "ego" when you don't know what and where it is and how you are holding it.

The essence of what i am saying is that please find this "EGO"........
The day you find it you will laugh because ego is an illusion ...a mirage.....it seems,.but it is not there  and that is why this search

 of "who am I"...........this "I " is the ego.

And the day you see or realize what you are, you will disappear, this "I" will disappear, this ego will disappear..............disappear because it doesn't exist in the first place.
That is why people fail in dropping their ego because they don't know what ego is. They dont know how they are holding it and still they go on trying to drop it.

The day you see this "I"... at that very moment it will die.........."I" is the ego and "my and mine " are  the factors by which it gets bloated,it gets bigger , it gets inflated..........

You are accidental and all that you do and aquire and feel is yours is also accidental.
All the definition you have about yourself are just a matter of chance.....temporary.....but there is something which has become you....which was there before the so called you were  born...........that is "the truth".

When you see this "I"....it will go away and what will be left is the "brahm.......the truth or the god or the ultimate or whatever u want to say"....thats precisely the reason why people who have known, say that there is god inside you......and that you are god and subsequently so is everybody.........but  you can say that only if you have realized and found that inside you......

Whatever i am saying is no hog wash , it's something very scientific and meditation is the way to find it...the way to reach this ego..........
And as soon as you reach your source u wont find any ego...........just "that"......the nameless....the faceless...the deathless.....the inexpressible.....

So please find yourself...please find this ego........do everything in life but the most essential is to find this "ego"...........and you will reach the ultimate and with that all issues gets settled..........all means all......all questions disappear.....

AND that is the whole purpose of human life...to reach your source.....to meet your true self.....
and it is the most exciting journey...the journey to find this ego.....the journey to reach your depths.......

But please don't get lost in all the experiences while you are exploring the inner.
Please don't be fooled by the talk of chakras and kendras and energy movement and the third eye.......and the shastrar....and the kundalinies .....though you are bound to be tempted

They are all illusion...go on dropping whatsoever that you experience........everything means everything.......don't hold them dear to your heart or else you will miss out.

ALL EXPERIENCES ARE OF THE BODY AND YOU ARE NOT THE BODY..............
NEVER FORGET THIS...OR ELSE YOUR MIND WILL AGAIN FOOL YOU .....LIKE IT HAPPENS WITH EVERYBODY,HARDLY AN EXCEPTION...
JUST ONCE IN A WHILE ONE ESCAPES THE CLUTCHES OF THE MIND AND ITS IDEAS..........BEWARE..........

AND THE EXCITEMENT OF  ALL THAT YOU ACHEIVE IN THIS WORLD IS NOTHING COMPARED TO THE EXCITEMENT CAUSED WHEN YOU GO WITHIN.
SO PLEASE FIND THIS EGO...AND ONE MUST, IF ONE HAS TO REALLY LIVE BLISSFULLY .

ON THE WAY REMEMBER THAT ALL YOU ACHIEVE IN THIS WORLD IS TEMPORARY AND ALL THAT YOU EXPERIENCE IN THE INNER IS ALSO TEMPORARY.....

IT'S THE ONE WHO IS EXPERIENCING THAT MATTERS..........

"THE ONE".........."EK OMKAR SATNAAM"........
All the best ........

Prem Kamal

Balance is the key......

I wish to know how is it really needed to leave your work, home to look for a better conscious life?

No…..not at all........there is absolutely no need to leave.

If you don’t work, how will you manage your needs and if you are not able to manage your needs how will you create surplus.......and only this surplus will help you towards the freedom of time and space to begin with.

If you leave your work, you will always be divided, dependent and division or dependence never helps in the progression towards the oneness, towards the freedom.......

So...work and work with totality.......and then if a time comes when your instincts suggest that u need a break from your work ...then why not...leave it for some time and see and explore other avenues....don’t make your work as the only obsession in life. If you realize that just work is not enough then don’t hesitate to leave it gradually for something higher and deeper which satiates you.

Secondly you asked about the need to leave home.......no need to leave.......it’s not required.

Again what you would need is a break and this break is required for the balancing act.

You will have to need a break from the known at times, be it house , work, friends, relatives....and lots of other things.This break is essential because else u would not be able to see things from a distance and unless you see things from a distance your perspective will just be 1 point.

It’s like in architectural drawing......1 point perspective......and growth is about having multi perspective vision.....not even 1 or 2 or 3 point perspective but multi point perspective and finally the absolute perspective....

When u see things from close u can never see them clearly, your vision gets blurred.

Just try bringing the book very near to your eyes and u will understand what i am saying. Familiarity breeds contempt...in this case contempt of vision......

So to explore the unknown u will have to have a break from the known.........be at anything.

And if you are scared to go away from anything known, it would be like that frog who is sitting in the well thinking that this is the whole world.....then it will paralyze your growth prospects.....u will become static....

You will never be able to delve into the depths of the inner if u are afraid to venture and explore the dimensions of the outer...... and for all kinds of exploration of new...a break is needed from the old….from the known......there is nothing wrong with it.....

In fact the more u explore outer with totality, with jest.......the more u will be unsatisfied and the more u will be unsatisfied the more easy it will be for you to take a plunge into "the inner"....in to the orgasmic........into the deathless.....

So there is absolutely no need to leave anything......be it work or home.

And don't limit yourself to any one thing.........explore, grow, learn, see, experience and don’t be satisfied till you find that one thing.....that which liberates

Then u asked

"Also, what i feel is that if I spend a normal usual life which I use to spend earlier without being introduced to these things, there is a non constructive life you end up living and if you wish to live it consciously then commercially it weakens?".................

Yes u are right in your observation and understanding. If you just go on living like this......working 9 to 5 , doing the same thing again n again n again..........u will be trapped in a rut. It becomes almost mechanical. One gets up, runs to shower n tea n breakfast n.............on n on and this becomes an everyday affair. And then comes the weekend... same parties, same booze.....same talk, same set of friends.........discussing same things........and then even the weekends become mechanical.........repetitive and this just becomes the whole life.........non constructive, dormant, repetitive............

But if you leave this so called normal life totally.......u will be in financial dole drums.....which will complicate life.....

So it’s kind of trouble both ways.......out of the pan and into the fire.......one gets burnt both ways.

Well, then what to do.........

It’s simple...CREATE A BALANCE......

Work, utilize your expertise in the old to create the base for the new and then have a break to move onto the other side.

Generally we understand that either we can work and be of this so called world or we leave this and get totally involved with the spiritual.....No, that’s a very poor understanding of life and it has come from very unintelligent people. Here everything is spiritual.....just a little understanding is needed for that......but the key is to create a balance.

You have day and you have night .....and all other aspects of the nature carry a balance...and when this balance becomes perfect and it does.......surrender happens.....Surrender is the ultimate flowering of life...of everything.......that is the perfect spirituality.....the only spirituality which is total…. which liberates…. which everybody is searching for……….

So, If you just go on running outside, chasing what your senses are guiding you to.... life will become tiring, exhausting............

And if u just go on exploring the inner, you will become deprived of the colors of the outer, the juice of this life, the vibrancy, the dreamy structure of the world.............

Why to miss out on anything....make most of everything.....

Use the momentum of one to take you to the other.....and enjoy flowing in this movement.

Life is movement......isn't it......... 

Essentially it’s about creating balance.......don't just become uni directional........the whole world is there for you.........inner and outer.......don’t limit yourself.......  

But please understand one thing very clearly, it’s not possible to go east and west at the same time........when you go east then don’t think of going the other way at that time….and when u turn around don’t think about the other side......

When you work you will be materialistically rich and when you venture within ........you will be rich in an inexplicable dimension.

Don’t expect materialistic richness when you start meditating...............that’s not possible.

So create materialistic richness which can help u to  move towards attaining inner richness and when u r enriched with the inner....within the inner, it will make u more intelligent to be rich outside also if u choose to.........though chances are once u have a taste of inner richness …. the outer achievements will make u laugh....

They will almost become redundant when you see and understand as to how this movement of life is happening ..........that’s how it is............

Don’t leave anything......start meditating…. and then what needs to be left out shall get dropped on its own......without any effort.......

Further you asked

“ Doesn't the materialistic wealth  go with consciousness even if the work you are doing is on the same line?”

My dear, materialistic wealth has no problem with consciousness or vice versa ........it’s the ignorant  who have created the barriers..........if you are happy driving a Ferrari then no need to sell it to become a monk…. that’s stupidity.......grossly unintelligent....be a monk who loves his Ferrari......there is no problem, absolutely none.. 

And let me tell you another fact of life.........when you create a balance with going in and going out so to speak.....there will be a harmony in your life....and the harmony will guide you to what is right and what is wrong.....what u need and what u don’t need.............

                                              Prem Kamal